Have a 2.5 year old and a 3 week old and struggling with the guilt.
2.5 year old doing really well but sometimes just looks so sad - I know he's struggling as I can't often do bedtime with him now as DS2 is cluster feeding at that time and just screams if I leave him with DH which then makes me feel awful too (DS1 still needs is to stay while he falls asleep so takes a while).
Trying to give him as much one on one time as I can and also leaving DS2 to cry a bit sometimes so DS1 knows I can put him first a bit but so hard when DS2 is screaming for feed! Best way seems to be with DS2 in sling as he'll sleep and I can play but he's still then attached to me which is where DS1 wants to be.
Sure this will pass but can't help feeling like DS1 is feeling pushed out all the time - he's back at childminder 3 days a week and is much happier to go than he ever has been which I should be pleased about but feel like it's because he's not happy at home now. He's also called me by childminders name a couple of times.
Sorry for essay - not sure what I'm asking but is this normal and will he/I adjust without him becoming emotionally damaged? I am rubbish at leaving babies to cry for any length of time really!
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gubbinsy · 24/05/2016 18:52
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