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Views on children carrying a newborn baby

(5 Posts)
Parsons4464 Sat 14-May-16 08:52:10

Hi I'm new to this but have a question, I have 2 kids one 7 years old and one just over 2 weeks old I had a experience with my 1st child where my partner at the time sister how was about 12 years old was walking around carrying my newborn baby and actually dropped her which we had to go to a&e to get her checked over. My current newborn baby in my new relationship has a 11 year old daughter and is happy to let her walk around holding a 3 week old baby. I have expressed my concern to my partner from past experience as I feel she is to young to be doing that with a baby so young at 11 years old... Am I wrong to not wanting my partners daughter to do this?

BorisIsBack Sat 14-May-16 08:54:56

I have no answers but I'm watching this with interest as my partner has do from a previous relationship Abd I have concearns about them being too rough with a baby.

Nan0second Sat 14-May-16 08:55:55

11 is fine if she's a sensible sort.
I was certainly doing this (and babysitting at 12!)
Just emphasising on safe ways to transfer and not the stairs smile

Parsons4464 Sat 14-May-16 09:55:36

Well my partners 11 year old is and isn't the sensible sort, in some aspects she can be then not in others... It might be just me from a bad past history but walking around with a baby who can barely support there own head I don't really agree with... I mean she's good with my newborn with holding her sat down but standing and walking around i feel is a different matter, she's not always the most careful 11 year old either. I wouldn't have so much of an issue if my newborn was maybe a few months old ect...

LogicalThinking Sat 14-May-16 12:13:11

Show her how to hold the baby and there really shouldn't be a problem.
There are a lot of parents who have dropped their own babies - it's not intentional or neglectful, it doesn't mean they can't be trusted, it's just one of those things that happens very occasionally. There is no real reason to believe that it will happen again.
I think that telling an 11yr old that they can't hold their half sibling will harm the relationship. Encourage her and get her involved so she doesn't feel pushed out and not trusted.

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