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Difference between PFB and POSB (poor old second born)

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Judgementalsocialist Sun 24-Apr-16 09:15:15

Just thinking about the differences in the way I bought up PFB and POSB (there might already be a MN acronym for this, sorry).

When DS was born we took 4 weeks deliberating over his name and when it was chosen I used to gaze into his eyes, play him the song he was named after and have a little weep. Most days for about a month.
DD was named on the delivery table. We both knew we wouldn't have time to discuss it when we got home.

Weaning DS consisted of weeks of selecting lovely brightly coloured BPA free plates and spoons, mashed avocados, ice cube trays, Annabel Karmel's books, photos opportunities, etc
DD grabbed a sandwich off my plate at 5 months and I didn't stop her.

DS received constant, descriptive chatter in an upbeat, positive tone.
DD (2) stomps around the house muttered "fah gads shake!"
God knows what would happen if I had a PFTC (poor forgotten third child).
Popped in a rucksack and fed wotsits probably.
Tell me we're not alone....?

Ethelswith Sun 24-Apr-16 09:22:16

I have a RBWTB (raised by wolves third born)

- who was named during a boozy post natal lunch by best friends and their DC
- who didn't eat solids until about a year, because she didn't want to and I could be bothered to force her (yes, btw, I did check with HCP that this was OK)
- who I couldn't face toilet training after all the fuss with older siblings, and who just took her nappy off one day and was fine

(And who DH left in the car once because he's forgotten we'd had another, only for 5 minutes and she was fine, but a story that has passed into family legend)

LeonoraFlorence Sun 24-Apr-16 09:22:47

I have 4 DDs close in age and was discussing this very thing with DH last night. We concluded DD1 had a definite advantage as a newborn/baby! However, a huge positive for DD4 is that she has her 3 sisters to dote on her/teach her new things/interact with her. DDs 3 and 4 are much more easy going as babies/toddlers than DD1s 1 and 2. It's difficult but I try to ensure all of the girls get quality alone time with me each day smile

Helenluvsrob Sun 24-Apr-16 09:27:52

My RBWTB seemed to bring herself up. She is the only one with a good dollop of common sense and the ability to survive I the wild without expecting calls of " how do you know when a chicken is cooked " etc!

Judgementalsocialist Sun 24-Apr-16 10:15:52

It sounds like I need to get myself a RBWTB. They sound like life's survivors who will lead the species in apocolyptic future times.

SandyAndy Sun 24-Apr-16 10:43:59

5 years between my boys.
DS1 oh no darling not those nasty guns, I'll take them out of your Playmobil set (yes I did do thisblush)
DS2 what do you want on your Christmas list? Nerf? OK.

Artandco Sun 24-Apr-16 11:15:35

Mine was opposite

Ds1 - had to fit in to Dh and I hectic schedule one child can. Throw in sling, travel the world, weaned often on plane food and foreign street food of unknown hygiene.

Ds2 - second child who was ill at birth. we knew would be our last, kept in a mini bubble and hand fed everything organic. He barely blinks and people almost bow to him

Helenluvsrob Sun 24-Apr-16 16:38:30

My PFB and NSB ( neglected second born ) are sure that RBWTB will rule the world- or be a bond evil genius.

CodyKing Sun 24-Apr-16 16:43:03

Oh dear - not so precious first born had to survive twins arrival - she had to amuse herself - own shoes strapped up at 2.5, could tie laces at 4 ride a bike at 5 and taught herself to read -

She's fine

kiki22 Sun 24-Apr-16 17:41:45

My pfb has so far spent his life with his cousin staying with us half the week and his teenage uncle here every weekend, with a 5 year old wanting to play princesses and a 12 year old wanting to stay out until 10 DS had to fend for himself so far. He was weaned mainly by dniece giving him random stuff and learned all the dangerous tricks he knows from his uncle (think I know he's two but he wants to climb to the top of the frame and beat his chest like Tarzan). On the upside he enjoys the peace when they all go home as much as me and will just chill. This next one has no chance I just hope he's as tough as his brother or he won't make it here.

kiki22 Sun 24-Apr-16 17:44:16

Oh and he spent his first night alone in a room when my mum had him and didn't have space for the travel cot without moving things so she just put it up in the other room and he was fine.... At 10 weeks with no monitor I'm sure there is a post from 2012 about that one.

donajimena Sun 24-Apr-16 17:45:28

I was on the phone to my cousin and I said 'hang on I have just got to take the babies milk out of the microwave'
She laughed and said 'you can tell its your second baby'

scarednoob Tue 26-Apr-16 17:36:57

I read it as "piss off second born" - glad it's not quite that bad!! grin

BotBotticelli Tue 26-Apr-16 20:43:19

One night when DS2 was around 10 weeks old, I was trying to put 2.9yo ds1 to bed and the toddler was having a massive tantrum in the bathroom.

So I just chucked ds2 in the Moses basket in my bedroom where he would be safe and went to sort out the screeching toddler. After 5-10 mins when it had all calmed down and ds1 was in his PJs I realised it had all gone quiet....ds2 had fallen asleep and remained that way until 11pm when he stirred for a feed.

And from that night onwards he stopped colicky crying all evening downstairs and started going to bed at "bedtime" along with his older brother.

We still joke now about that night when DS2 just decided to "put himself to bed". Bless him.

BotBotticelli Wed 27-Apr-16 22:05:52

I let 8mo DS2 eat half a Cornetto this afternoon 😳

Judgementalsocialist Fri 29-Apr-16 22:15:05

Just the half?! grin

livvylongpants Fri 29-Apr-16 22:20:43

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Elisheva Fri 29-Apr-16 22:29:53

I don't know about Raised by Wolves Third Child, I have a Raised by PFB Third Child (RBPFBTC?!).
DS1 (9) is far more attentive to her needs then I am. She goes to him if she needs things opening/reaching , takes him the remote control to put Peppa Pig on and 'tells' him when I won't let her do things (like eat raw sausages for example). He reads to her, plays with her - he's doing a better job with her then I did with him!

Judgementalsocialist Fri 29-Apr-16 23:02:13

Ha, my ds PFB has taken on responsibility for speaking for them both. "We don't want any vegetables", "We don't want to go to bed yet"., etc also "Mummy she wants a biscuit" when she's clearly making herself heard by shouting "Bicbic! Bicbiiiiiiiic!!!!!"
As if I needed it translated.

kiki22 Sat 30-Apr-16 11:08:14

I was the pfb and done so much for my sister she didn't speak a word until I went to my grandparents for a long weekend by the time I came home she was talking like a book 😂

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