And I've got I idea why.
Divorced for 4 years, DS is 8. They've always had regular contact with ex, he moved in with his partner about 6 mths ago but other than that no big changes.
His behaviour is 70/30 ok. Typical 8 yr old boy stuff, annoying his sisters, rough and tumbling, some disrespect etc
For a while now he has been coming home and telling fibs about his dad. For example he'll say Dad Sent me upstairs all day just for doing X (usually some truth in the matter but exaggerated), this is accompanied by tears and I'm not going to his house anymore.
When asked ex will confirm that X did happen but DS is exaggerating. So DS says ex pushed him in to his bedroom, ex says he guided him, DS says he was upstairs all day, ex says it was 10 minutes.
Today he came home and told me his arm was hurting, I looked at it and started crying, asked him what was wrong and he said he's been telling ex all day his arm hurt. Then said ex has been horrible to him all day, told him off for X,y,z. I phoned ex in front of DS (who is sobbing now) and ex was utterly bemused. Said they've had a lovely day and DS was laughing and smiling all the way home.
DS refused to speak to ex on the phone at the point.
I spoke to the girls who said that DS has been in trouble today but was fine at exs.
Any advice where to go from here?
Ex seems to be saying to me that there is a reason DS is lying to me. I think he's implying it's to get some attention from me. I personally think ex is to harsh on them behaviour wise, he doesn't live with them and I think has forgotten you need to pick your battles and not pull them up on every minor infraction.
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Morningbirdsong · 17/04/2016 05:22
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