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What time does your 10 year old go to bed?

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bringonyourwreckingball · 11/04/2016 08:19

DD1 who will be 11 in October has started complaining that her bedtime is earlier than all her friends. This is undeniably true and I have accepted that things need to change but her friends seem to stay up until what to me is unacceptably late at that age - she's getting texts from them at past 11 o'clock. I could do with a little guidance on what is regarded as reasonable at that age. I know all children are different and some need more sleep than others but I'm interested in whether there's a rough consensus.

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TwigTheWonderKid · 11/04/2016 08:55

My DS who will be 11 in July goes to bed between 8.30 and 9pm. He's usually asleep around 9.30pm and awake between 6.30-7am.

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lavendersun · 11/04/2016 08:56

Just 10 here, bed by 9-9:30 on a school night although not always asleep for another hour. I wake her up at 7 if she isn't up already.

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pilates · 11/04/2016 09:03

My nearly 12 year old is in bed for 9pm on a school night.

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MissRainbowBrite · 11/04/2016 09:06

DS is in bed around 8 and allowed his iPod until 8.30 then usually reads til 9 but it can take til 9.30 before he's asleep, this is on a school night. At weekends its around 10-10.30 when he goes to sleep.

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deepdarkwood · 11/04/2016 09:07

Dd is just ten & in bedford 8:30, lights out at 9 on a school night - officially. Ds at just 12 is half an hour later. My two are larks though so won't necessarily go to sleep quickly and won't wake up until dragged out if bed most days!

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Sgtmajormummy · 11/04/2016 09:13

DD (just 10) starts winding down at 9. We aim for bed at 9.30 but if the book we're reading together is exciting it can stretch to 9.45.
She's up at 7.15. That's approximately 9 hours' sleep and she's thriving.

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parissont · 11/04/2016 09:14

Dd is about to be 10. 8.30 bed usually asleep v quickly and up at 7

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parissont · 11/04/2016 09:16

Oh and no ipod in bed.

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notsomanky · 11/04/2016 09:23

DS2 will be 11 in October. He goes up to bed at 8, and lights out 8.30 or 8.45 at latest. He wakes any time between 6 & 7 naturally, but has to be up at 6.45 some school days to go to CM.

DD is 12 she goes up at 8.30 and lights out about 9, she is a night owl though and will still be awake at 11 some nights! She has to get up at 6.15 to catch the school bus.

DS1 is 13, he goes up any time between 9 & 9.45. Lights out usually about 10 or 10.15. He again needs to be up at 6.15 for the school bus.

They all go to bed earlier than a lot of their friends!

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Sgtmajormummy · 11/04/2016 09:24

According to the NHS, a 10 yo needs 9 hours 45 mins and an 11 yo 9 hours 30 mins.www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Childrenssleep/Pages/howmuchsleep.aspx

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123rd · 11/04/2016 09:26

My 9 yr ds goes up around 8 ish but by the time we do teeth story etc that takes 30mins at least.
My 12yr dd goes up around 9 but again fannies around for ages. Neither are very good a going to sleep.
No electronics in bedrooms etc. just night owls unfortunately

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bringonyourwreckingball · 11/04/2016 11:38

Thanks, that's helpful. We currently do upstairs/pyjamas/teeth around 8/8:15, in bed for 8:30, lights out by 9. It has actually been slipping later but mainly because she faffs. She has to be up by 7 in the morning.

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ShanghaiDiva · 11/04/2016 11:40

8.30, 9 at the latest. Up at 7.

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hazeyjane · 11/04/2016 11:45

Between 8 and 9.
Up at 6.30

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TinyPawz · 11/04/2016 11:47

My nearly 10yo Dd goes to bed at 8, some nights would read until 8.30. Without fail I have to wake her at 7.30 for school.

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TheTartOfAsgard · 11/04/2016 11:52

My kids are 11 and 12, go up at 9, faff about for 1/2 hour, in bed at 9.30 and read til 10. They don't have to get up til 7:30 though

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Oldmotherhen · 11/04/2016 11:52

10 year old DS goes to bed at 8.30, usually reads for a bit and is asleep by 9.30 and wakes up himself between 7 and half past. He will be 11 in June.

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Chasethechaser · 11/04/2016 11:53
  1. Aloud to read in bed for an he. No electronics except for a kindle which only has books no online stuff.
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ClaudoftheRings · 11/04/2016 13:05

DSS is nearly 11 and time to get ready for bed is 8.30pm. In bed reading by 8.45. He did push for 9pm but was too tired.

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Fooshufflewickbannanapants · 11/04/2016 15:56

My 11 yo dd goes to bed at 830 but up at 615 my 15 yo dd also goes at 830 cos she loves her bed! Our 9 year old ds bed at 715 but he's an arse without sleep and doesn't do lie ins and our 13 yo do goes to bed at 9 and 16 yr whenever they like as long as they are up for their paper round and pleasant with it. They all get up at 630 apart from 11 year old (oh and our 3 yr old at goes at 7) only the 16 year old is allowed phone/electronics in room.

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