I don't really know how to explain this. I feel like I am a really bad mother.
DD is 3y9mo. Most of the time, she is fabulous, chatty and full of her fun. I'm ok when that's going on.
She's really incredibly stubborn. Mornings are a nightmare, no matter how early I get up or how organised I am. I don't mind her having opinions on what she wants to wear but I can't take the whining when whatever she wants to wear is in the wash. We went through all the available dresses this morning before I literally forced her into a t-shirt and leggings in order to get out the door in time. She also refused to wear shoes so I stuck them in her little backpack - which caused another screaming fit. I lost it at this stage - it's not like this hasn't been the routine since the day she started at the crèche. Then (obviously), she was very upset and wouldn't let go of me when I was dropping her at the crèche, which is literally 500 metres from the house.
I'm not proud of how I handled this morning. I am just so exhausted from being the only one she wants to go to - she almost never voluntarily goes to H, even though he's way more patient with her than I am. She has (again) taken to coming into our bed during the night meaning nobody gets any sleep. H hasn't the sense to go to the spare room and if I go she will just follow me. If I get into the shower, she stands outside whinging until I get out.
What do I do now. I've looked into parenting classes locally but either they're on when I'm at work, or they deal with different stages of childhood. The next one that looks like it might be right starts in June so I'm going to sign up to that. I've downloaded How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk and will re-start reading that in the vague hopes that it helps.
What else can I do? I can basically leave H out of it as I may be pissing up a downpipe as asking him for help. I am so frustrated and angry with myself and I wound up crying this morning after I dropped her off. I'm going to wind up scarring her for life if this continues. Please help.
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BarleysFiddle · 30/03/2016 11:23
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