I posted before on relationships about being married to a non-committed man. My husband of 5 years rarely comes home and we have a 3 year old son. We have had a troubled marriage with domestic disputes and he has choose to sleep in his office during the week, to save on gas and time working in another city. I don't think he ever got the chance to develop a real bond with his son since he sees him just on weekends or maybe every other weekend. We have no real relationship, but he says he loves DS and shows him affection. But something happened new year's eve that has me so bothered. We celebrated on a hotel rooftop with our DS and I got so drunk on wine and champagne. I had made DH promise not to let me drive if I drank too much. I have on several occasions left DH somewhere or put him out of the car so DS will not hear us argue. Anyway we were arguing by midnight and after several more drinks, I could not even make it downstairs without help. Then we got to the lobby and he left me and DS there to get the car. He was taking forever so I walked 5 minutes with the stroller and found him standing there with the valet and our car. I was so hammered I started yelling at him and told him to leave after he put DS in car seat. Next thing I knew, he had walked off and strangers were screaming at me that I was too drunk to drive my child home and was opening my car doors and dialing 911. Then I panicked, quickly realizing what was happening and called my husband. He immediately came back to the car and drove us home. I know I am to blame for getting wasted and I could not make a responsible decision under the influence. But I trusted my husband not to let me drive drunk with our child. He was sober and I was not. Strangers saved my child's life. Why did he walk away? How could he claim to love his child and endanger his life at the same time? I am very confused. I need answers. A father is supposed to have a protective instinct toward their child. I know he has not been a real part of his life since he was born, but when he does spend time with him, Disney trips, parks, beach, so many memorable moments, how could he not care?
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