DD failing at school, how to help

[parentallyadept]

I've just got back from a disastrous school parents evening where my youngest DD's teacher told me that she was very worried about her learning, that she was unable to hold a pencil or write much of anything at all, and couldn't read even basic things. I sat there agog - She's just turned 5 and is painfully shy, but she CAN do these things and certainly does do them at home! How do I help her at home to encourage her doing the same at school? (She's my youngest of 3, never had these issues with either of my other 2)
Thanks

[RockUnit]

Did you tell the teacher your DD can do these things at home? Did she have any suggestions?

[parentallyadept]

I did tell her, yes. She wants me to video DD reading but she can't take the same evidence for her writing - if she doesn't do it in school it gets marked down that she can't do it! Beyond that she didn't have any suggestions at all. I've been out and got some of the wipe-clean books to practice letters with, but that won't help with her confidence and shyness in school.