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satsumagirl Mon 29-Feb-16 19:43:04

Hello there.

I just wanted to talk to others who might have been in the same situation.
I'm married and we have 2 young kids, one of whom is in school. We both work full time and very long hours with no family nearby.

I know that I am lucky. We are okay for money, in decent jobs, we have a house and most importantly the DCs are healthy and seem happy (touch wood). And I feel blinking stupid writing this. But we both work such a lot we don't see each other that much or our friends and I find that very hard. DH travels a fair bit with work. Our marriage has been through a very rocky patch over the last few years due to kids not sleeping, family issues, work being all consuming etc but things are getting a bit better. I just feel horribly, terribly lonely. I've tried to tell DH about it but he just says that I should be more resilient and happy. I've had depression before and feel that I am often battling to fight it off. You wouldn't know it if you met me though. I put a brave face on it at work and everyone says I am calm and happy.

I just wondered if anyone has been through something similar, and what you did about it. I don't want to talk to my friends about it- I don't see them very often and I would feel ashamed confessing to how I feel.

lemon101 Mon 29-Feb-16 23:11:17

Hi, no real words of wisdom really except to say that I understand how you are feeling and how work/other life demands and kids can really make things hard in a relationship. It's something me and dh are working through.
You should open up to your friends - there is no reason to be ashamed. You might otherwise have a comfortable life but that doesn't invalidate how you

purpleme12 Mon 29-Feb-16 23:34:17

I empathise too. I know how you feel

purpleme12 Mon 29-Feb-16 23:37:10

I also feel very lonely.I feel like I'm just here to entertain my little girl part of me feels like I've lost me

reallywittyname Tue 01-Mar-16 09:52:17

Me too. It's lonely looking after two small children all day.
flowers for you.

Bree85 Tue 01-Mar-16 09:58:45

That is so sad to hear. I hope you two can work that out. I guess you need both a holiday, just the two of you even just for a day or two. Maybe that could help.

satsumagirl Tue 01-Mar-16 13:47:17

Glad it's not just me. Thanks so much ladies xxxx

Has anyone been here and come out the other side?

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