I'm at a loss as to how to deal with our DD1. She's a lovely girl most of the time. She's doing well at school and had lots of lovely friends.
She's had constipation and bladder issues for years all of which she is seeing HCPs about and has medication. She often has damp dirty pants as she withholds rather than going to the loo. This is for background as its so much part of who she is.
She is well behaved at school and perfectly lovely with her childminder.
Her behaviour at home is truly awful. She seems unable to control her rage whenever she is politely asked to help round the house, tidy up or deal with her dirty damp pants. She never seems to listen to me in particular. I usually have to ask a number of times before she'll brush teeth or get her shoes on if we are going out. She snarls, yells, and tells me she hates me at the slightest suggestion of being asked to do anything she doesn't want to do.
I try to keep calm and just continue to speak politely to her. Often offer her choices, so she has some control, and remind her of consequences, eg, if you don't brush your teeth they will get holes and be sore. We praise and reward good behaviour and try and ignore poor behaviour when she's obviously tired.
Tonight however she has really tested the boundaries. She's had friends over to play and once they left admitted she'd pooed her pants. She was asked to take them off and put them in the bin. All hell broke loose. She screamed, snarled, stomped about and slammed doors, attempted to hit me and declared that she hated her life. I just don't know how to deal with her. I told her she wouldn't her to a party tomorrow if she continued to be so cheeky and badly behaved. She yelled that she didn't care.
She's been sent to bed in disgrace but I'm sitting in tears at a lose as to how to help her deal with her emotions. I adore her but she's such hard work.
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Not dealing well with 8 year old DD1
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soupmaker · 19/02/2016 18:52
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