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Am I right to get a little upset over this? Friends think I'm just acting up. I'm not upset for myself as I'm In a new relationship and have no feelings for this man, I'm upset for my son as it feels he doesn't care for him.
I work full time on minimum wage. Bring home little money and have to pay full rent because landlords don't accept partial housing benefit which is why I'm always left with virtually no money. My son is 16 months old, his dad and I where briefly together in early 2014 for about a month.
He does see his son (at my local park) for a few hours a fortnight. He lives 100 miles away from me so isn't easy but he will call him during the week.
I asked him for child support back in the summer. He made a big deal out of it said I wouldn't get a penny from him and was laughing at me. I made a claim against him which wasn't easy as had no address or work details just a name number family names etc and they told me it would probably be impossible unless I could find out his current address. I told him I had made the claim. He met with me and told me he couldn't afford to pay me anything right now as was on unpaid training for a new job. He said when he was getting paid he would make payments. He told me in September he had finished training but I never asked for any money at this time.
I started asking him for around £10 a week in December. He again said no and laughed at me saying I wouldn't get anything from him and I work and get child tax credit so I shouldn't be getting a penny from him anyway. He then tells me he can't afford to pay me anything even if he wanted too because he has no money.
Today I see he's taken his girlfriend out for a stay at a London hotel with dinner and brought her a Michael Kors watch. I saw this on social media as we are friends on there.
I haven't said anything to him and don't intend to cause any drama. I'm not going to say anything to her either because it's not her fault and she doesn't even know he has a baby. I'm just upset that he can do all of that for her whilst I'm having to feed his son cheap crap food because I can't afford any alternative.
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Am I right to get upset when he's buying her all these things yet can't afford cs
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Elle6799 · 14/02/2016 18:26
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