Dear All
Newbie here so sorry if this is posted in the wrong place. I'm a single man with two children who I see part time, and have a concern about their mum (and possibly partner) smoking excessively around them.
Bit of background: my ex-wife has always been a smoker. She even, I'm ashamed to say, smoked through both her pregnancies. We separated after four years of marriage and are now divorced.
However just recently (last few months) I'm noticing that when the kids visit I can smell cigarette smoke on them- in their hair and on their clothes. Last time I went to drop them back the house stank like an ashtray, causing me to comment. The comment was simply dismissed and when I gently tried to raise the issue by text, I got a lengthy message telling me basically to back off, and she was working on it.
My son is 12 and on the autistic spectrum. For some time recently he has had sinus problems. My daughter is 8 and generally healthy, but has had lots of sleeping difficulty, a bad cough, and behavioural problems. Im not suggesting these are linked to passive smoking, but its not inconceivable that cigarette smoke is making these problems worse.
My relationship with my ex wife is fragile at best. When things go well I try really hard not to rock the boat, however I can't ignore the welfare of my kids for the sake of harmony. I feel powerless however. There is nothing I can do legally (or is there?). I feel like she has total control. I don't even know who my kids' GP is.
Is there any advice anyone can give? I'm feeling like I am not doing enough but I don't know how to deal with this.
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My children's mum smokes around them
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lucasisking · 05/02/2016 15:06
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