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advice needed, ds biological dad wants contact again.

(6 Posts)
ICantThinkOfAUsernameH Thu 04-Feb-16 17:13:05

Trying not to drip feed, exH and I seperated march 2014, I moved different country but in uk Aug 14 and he hasn't seen our ds since one visit in sept 14.
Ive a new partner and expecting, dp has brought ds up since sept 14.
exH paid maintenence on and off, claims he's not seen ds due to his job and distance (about 2.5 hrs drive) I also moved away due to a dv incident in which he was charged with abh.
Now he wants to see ds this weekend, ive said he can supervised but he can't visit once then not bother again as dont want to distress ds (just turned 3). He said he will visit monthly until he can afford fortmightly.

ICantThinkOfAUsernameH Thu 04-Feb-16 17:13:59

Sorry for the shocking grammar etc!

ICantThinkOfAUsernameH Thu 04-Feb-16 19:02:31

Any advice?

GNRmama Thu 04-Feb-16 19:54:57

How old is your son? Does he know who his dad is?

GNRmama Thu 04-Feb-16 19:57:26

Ah just seen he is three. It's tough to call but you're totally right not to offer unsupervised. Do you even feel comfortable having him around your son if there's a history of DV?

ICantThinkOfAUsernameH Thu 04-Feb-16 22:19:22

He doesnt remember him at all, going to speak to hv and try get a referral for a contact centre.

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