hello all,
i'm new on here so apologies if this ends up in the wrong place.
i feel as if i have produced such an unhappy baby! she is 10 weeks old, born naturally (not even a sniff of pain relief- hardly had time!) and has been exclusively breast fed. Bf'ing hasn't been the easiest as she was tongue tied with a late diagnosis and snipped at just over 7 weeks.
i just cant work her out, she behaves like she has the weight of the world on her shoulders. one minute she wants to be held, the next minute she seems to want to be put down. she gives hunger cues, has a couple of sucks then burst into tears, other times she gulps so much she coughs, sometimes she wont even latch and just screams coming near the breast so i have to try and her calm her and get her sleepy before she'll feed. she has never managed to settle herself, i have to work very hard to get her to sleep only for her to fart and wake herself up- more crying, start again! she is slightly better in the pram or car but screams if we have to stop to queue or at traffic lights. she has never slept in her mosses basket, will only sleep being held or next to me and it's a performance just to achieve that. i just cant imagine a baby that would be laid down in their bed and fall asleep- do they exist at this age...? she sleeps so lightly and is always jumping awake and she knows the minute she has been put down!
so we have tried....
dentinox, infacol, gripe water (wind much improved since tongue tie snip and trying to get these down her always made her cough and gulp in more air)
swaddling
sling (sometimes works, sometimes she wont tolerate it)
hot water bottle to warm moses basket
white noise, no noise, loads of noise
cranial osteopath- bit of tweaking but no major concern, no apparent improvements, she left the building screaming!
massage, skin to skin- doesn't really appear to enjoy either
dummy or expressed breast milk in bottle (she spits out/cries/gags or all three)
thumb she has sucked it a couple of times but generally looks really confused when we do it for her and she cannot find it alone.
left to cry (for all of about 5 mins out of desperation- she got super cross, made herself sick with the crying and started to cough on it. wont try this again
first baby so i dont know if i am doing something wrong, or if she is just having a hard time adjusting... any advice? success stories? similar experiences?
sorry to ramble but starting to feel quite desperate!!
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jellybelly8 · 27/01/2016 15:59
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