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Parents taking liberties with DD

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sugarplumfairy28 Sun 24-Jan-16 18:14:43

Sorry in advance but this is a rant.

We've been having problems with DD age 4 and bedtime, and also problems with kindergarten. We have just about sorted kindergarten to the extent that tomorrow is her first full week, up until now she hasn't been going on a Monday.

We've been trying so so hard with bedtime, routine starts about half past 7 with a hope to her being in bed by half eight.

Parents (who live downstairs) asked yesterday if they could take her out for the afternoon(!) to see an old friend. OK fine.

Starting to worry at half 6 that their not back, finally give in by 7 and phone them. She's not had dinner and their not due back til gone 8.

They know how hard we've been working and how difficult it's been and how important that tomorrow goes well. I'm fuming that they didn't even call and seem insulted that they should have to give her dinner. They have absolutely no manners, and have potentially ruined all our hard work. I'm sitting here crying because they simply will not treat me or my husband like adults and yet constantly lectre us about our responsibilities. This is my daughter and they just don't care about the damage their doing.

Sparkletastic Sun 24-Jan-16 18:17:13

No more outings with GPs for a good while then.

breezeharbour Sun 24-Jan-16 18:22:11

My PIL have done this and it took a week to get DDs sleeping back on track. Either speak to them when they bring her back and/or limit the time they have your DC. I feel for you, it is stressful thanks

sugarplumfairy28 Sun 24-Jan-16 19:42:53

Argh, 20 past 8 they came strolling in, and had the cheek to moan at us!! Saying we could have put an outside light on. They have no concept at all (even after DH phoned them) that anything they've done is out of line. Cannot reason with stupidity. The irony of the whole thing is, I'm moaning about MY parents to my mother in law.

strawberrybubblegum Sun 24-Jan-16 22:11:08

I remember your thread from a while ago, about how she was struggling with the move to Germany and the new language. It stayed with me - such a tough challenge for a tiny girl, and so worrying for you sad

You must be so angry at your parents, sabotaging you like this - even though it was thoughtless rather than malicious. And from what I remember, they weren't being very supportive last time either.

Could you change the plan and do a 4-day week this week again, and then move to full time next week instead? I imagine that if she's shattered, then next week could be volatile anyway, perhaps best not to mix that up with the change in routine.

A day lost now is no big thing, and I'm sure the teachers will understand your desire to give her the best chance possible.

The only thing that would make me think twice is if you've explicitly prepared her for changing to full time tomorrow - since changing the plan might confuse her and make her think kindy is optional, which obviously isn't what you want her to think. With my 3-year-old I suspect I could blag it by starting the day saying that she's at home (as if that was always the plan) but perhaps your DD is more aware!

How is she getting on now? Has she picked up enough German to be comfortable?

Sympathy and best wishes flowers

RandomMess Sun 24-Jan-16 22:13:40

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh roaring for you. I guess you don't let take DD out with them again for a long, long, long time...

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