Advanced search

does one to one time help or hinder the bond of your littles?

(7 Posts)
littleraysofsunshine Sun 24-Jan-16 10:12:03

I've messaged on here before about how to balance one to one time but doing stuff together too.

So we have a five year old, three and a half and two year old and were expecting a baby in April.

We have always been close, the kids are very close especially the elder two as they are closest. The thing is that I have been trying to do one to one things as well as together just to try and get a balance and I thought it was a healthy thing to do.

I enjoy time one to one but feel guilty for the other/s. Even though we rotate if you see what I mean. And I want them to see that it's nice acknowledging each other's needs but then I don't want to drive them and their closeness apart???


And any tips from parents with four small kids under 5? Balance? I know it can be tough I just don't want to feel mama guilt when trying my best!

littleraysofsunshine Wed 27-Jan-16 19:23:54


littleraysofsunshine Sat 06-Feb-16 19:29:29


minipie Sat 06-Feb-16 20:51:17

I have no experience sorry - IMO if you have four such little ones then you're doing very well if they are all fed washed and mostly not crying...! I expect that one on one time will be more important as they get older.

littleraysofsunshine Sun 07-Feb-16 22:17:35

Thank you

Goatcoat Sun 07-Feb-16 22:41:23

Hmmm... I'm a tad baffled as to why you're having more children if you're worried about being able to give them individual attention?

Part of the reason DH and I have stopped at 2 DC is that we feel emotionally stretched with just two of them and that we, in our set up, would struggle to have enough time for any more.

However, to answer your actual question, I think that 1-2-1 time might be important but there are many many other factors that contribute to creating and maintaining healthy bonds.

littleraysofsunshine Sun 21-Feb-16 17:45:12

What I said was that we enjoy time together, just wondering if building bonds one to one would hinder their siblings bonds or would that still stay strong alongside having time with each parent. grin

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now