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Has anyone moved a child to a new school and regretted it?

(7 Posts)
hugsarealwaysneededhere1 Thu 21-Jan-16 06:47:38

Primary school year 3.
Just looking for some experiences before I take the plunge!

*no space for brother yet
*I teach at new school part time
*concerned about logistics and financial implications but more so for younger brother and how he will feel.

Reason for move:
*currently class is 32
* very tricky class
*not making the expected progress


MoreCrackThanHarlem Thu 21-Jan-16 06:52:11

I moved my daughter in Y3.
The criteria for the Secondary school I wanted changed so I needed to have her in a feeder school.

It was fine. I think she spent a couple of years feeling like 'the new girl', but by y6 was settled with a lovely group of friends who she has stuck with throughout Secondary (she is 15 now).

Don't regret it.

hugsarealwaysneededhere1 Thu 21-Jan-16 21:49:47

Thanks Moorcrack

Wish I had a crystal ball!!

caitlinohara Fri 22-Jan-16 09:52:38

I recently moved my Y2 son out of a large, 'tricky' class to a smaller school, and although it's not perfect, he is much happier. My older son is still at the old school because he leaves in July anyway, so I have some logistics issues that I am working out as I go along! I think one of the hardest things about parenting is when you realise that what's best for one is not necessarily best for all your children. The hardest thing for me has been staying on good terms with the old school, and that will depend on how you handle the move and the reasons you give. How old is your younger son?

Whistle73 Fri 22-Jan-16 15:35:03

I moved my dd1 in reception because we moved house. I also had to move her at the end of Year 7 because I wasn't happy with the secondary school she had started at. Both moves worked out just fine.

hugsarealwaysneededhere1 Sat 23-Jan-16 22:00:17

Thank you all.
caitlinohara - my youngest is in year 1 and I think I'd likely be in your position for years as there is a long waiting list.
How did you approach leaving with the school? Has your son made friends easily? Did any of his old class say anything?

caitlinohara Mon 25-Jan-16 21:20:42

hugs I have posted about this in AIBU because unfortunately there has been some fallout, yes, but consensus seems to be that this is unavoidable unless you are very lucky! You need to do what's best for your children though, and if he is unhappy then move him, and don't feel guilty. Ds2 has amazed me with how quickly he has settled at the new school, and honestly he is like a different boy when he comes out at the end of the day, like the weight of the world has been lifted off his shoulders, and he wasn't being bullied - he was just stressed out by the experience of being in a noisy, large class.

Is your younger son happy at current school? If he is then he presumably won't mind staying where he is, and you can put him on waiting list and see what happens. If he is unhappy that's a different matter. Do you have any sway with admissions given that you are going to be working there?

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