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11year old tried to change my sons nappy!

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CraigN2016 Wed 20-Jan-16 13:14:43

Hello, i would like some opinions please as I am unsure where to go from here!

My son is 7 years old And has Autism , Global development delay and something else and because of this he is still in nappies.

My son goes to a tutor for a couple of hours every day and is joined by other children ( my son is the only one who needs extra supoort) however when I picked him up yesterday a girl ran over to me and said " * child's name* tried to change your sons nappy today, but * my sons name * ran off naked" I instantly became concerned because I was suprised that the 11 year old had the opportunity to attempt to change my son. I asked her to explain again and she went to to say " he was on the floor in the play room and he had his feet in the air then he ran .. It was funny!"

What would you do in this situation? I can't talk to my son about it because he simply doesn't understand.
I thought children stopped becoming curious about the body at a younger age?


FannyFifer Wed 20-Jan-16 13:24:23

Did he need his nappy changed? Could child have thought they were helping, maybe has younger siblings.

If they all there for tutoring then where was the adult when this was going on, that's what I'd be finding out first.

Iwonderif Wed 20-Jan-16 14:32:18

Speak to the tutor involved and ask for full story. How old was the girl who told you what had happened? Sometimes they can embellish things depending on their age. If it were me I would prefer to hear what happened from the tutor and then take it from there.

steppemum Wed 20-Jan-16 14:42:15

speak to the adult.

I think it is more likely her trying to help than body curiosity, but either way you need to know what happened and why were they unsupervised.

jelliebelly Wed 20-Jan-16 14:48:00

Speak to the tutor and get some facts before doing anything

WitchSharkadder Wed 20-Jan-16 15:03:33

I agree its more likely the girl was trying to be helpful so I wouldn't be concerned from that point of view. However, I would be concerned about how/why this happened and where the tutor was.

I do understand your concerns, my DS has ASD/GDD and is still in nappies too, I have always been mindful of his dignity/privacy and this situation wouldn't sit right with me but I don't think the girl is to blame.

Jasonandyawegunorts Wed 20-Jan-16 17:01:28

It's is likely that at home she changes younger siblings occasionally and was trying to help.

That said the situation shouldn't have got to the point where this happened.
You need to talk to the tutor and find out what happened.

ArkATerre Wed 20-Jan-16 19:10:30

Talk to the tutor. That's the only way you are going to find out what happened.

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