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I hardly recognise my 21 month old anymore....

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Writerwannabe83 Sun 27-Dec-15 08:23:24

Over the last couple of months my DS has transformed to someone I hardly recognise.

He's gone from a placid, calm, loving little boy to a bit of a nightmare.

He doesn't stop throwing things, and I'm on about really hurling things in anger. If he gets told off for something he will pick up the nearest thing he can find and full force, throw it across the room.

He screams and throws himself to the floor (very dramatically of course) if he doesn't get his own way and it's a nightmare.

He has pretty much stopped paying attention to us now and only responds to his name if it's convenient for him - can toddlers have selected hearing? grin

Nappy changing is now an absolute battle - twisting, screaming, kicking out etc.

He used to be so good at meal times but now he has periods of refusing to eat and instead will just lunge his bowls of food across the room.

He used to sit calmly and read books with me and DH but now he just manically turns all the pages, wants to do it himself, pushes my hands away and he gets angry if I try and stop him.

It's all so exhausting confused

It doesn't help that he used to be such a mummy's boy, it was always me he wanted and he'd be so affectionate towards me, whereas now he just seems to want his dad all the time.

He has also started pushing other children to the point my CM has had to highlight the issue with me - she has also passed comment about his throwing.

I'm hoping this is just the "Terrible Twos" approaching and I'm sure it's all completely normal but it's so draining.

Where has my gorgeous little boy gone?

FannyTheChampionOfTheWorld Sun 27-Dec-15 13:41:09

You've got a toddler. Congratulations!

ExplodingCarrots Sun 27-Dec-15 13:44:38

What fanny said. I can sympathise with you all the way. My DD is 2.3 and some days I'm in tears and exhausted.

We're in the 'give that back its MINE'' phase at the moment.

GenevaMaybe Sun 27-Dec-15 13:46:57

My 15-month old does a lot of these things so heaven knows what she'll be like when the terrible twos hit! You have my full sympathy. I am drinking a glass of white wine now while she naps as, erm, it's still Christmas or something.

FattySantaRobin Sun 27-Dec-15 13:58:34

They grow out of it. DD went through it early (as in between 18 months and 2) and seems to be coming out if it now. That could just be she's had loads of new stuff to keep her occupied though! Especially as her birthday is a week before Christmas. (Just turned 2)
Although I did have a tantrum before as she didn't want her pizza, she wanted her older brothers, which was exactly the same. grin

Littlef00t Sun 27-Dec-15 15:53:25

My sympathies, Dd is going to be 2 in March and the wingeing, hitting and fussy eating has massively increased. She's been throwing herself on the floor in tantrums since she was 11mo, but it improved for a few months and has got worse again. I've agreed with the CM that if we say we'll do something (eg out of the bath now, no more 'oh 5 more mins' if she whines) we'll follow through come what may to try and reduce them, so tantrums won't get her anywhere.

AnotherTimeMaybe Sun 27-Dec-15 15:56:39

It's a phase, it might last a couple of years but it ll go and then another phase will kick off hmm

thatstoast Sun 27-Dec-15 16:05:21

I dream of the day DS only wants his Daddy. I'm going to milk it for all it's worth.

I bet your son is just as gorgeous as ever, just with added throwing.

daluze Sun 27-Dec-15 20:19:32

My DS1 was getting quite frustrated at that age, because he wasn't able to express himself verbally, at least not enough for us to understand what was wrong. It improved when his speech progressed. You probably already doing this, but encouraging to calm down and tell in words and always explaining/warning what will happen next in terms that he understands was the best preventative measures.

Luckystar1 Sun 27-Dec-15 20:24:01

My 14 month old DS is like this, I'm just jealous that you managed to get a much longer calm time!

I'm sure it passes, I just have no idea how quickly shock

Writerwannabe83 Sun 27-Dec-15 20:53:26

I've actually had a really lovely day with him today. DH has been out and me and DS have had a nice afternoon in together.

One thing that worries me is that I work long shifts, I can sometimes go 48 hours without seeing him and on other occasions I only really see him one day in four days. I'm worried that as he's getting older he's starting to notice my absence more and struggle with the inconsistency of when I will or will not be in his daily life - I often question whether this instability may be affecting his behaviour sad

AnotherTimeMaybe Mon 28-Dec-15 12:33:39

It could be so do enjoy him as much as you can xxx

gillybeandramaqueen Wed 06-Jan-16 19:04:16

My 2 year old DS is exactly the same..... and he has a 3 month old baby brother!!! challenging

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