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Do they get quieter once they can talk?

(24 Posts)
ApplesTheHare Sat 26-Dec-15 10:16:11

Or am I holding onto false hope? grin

DD's shouting is out of control at 15 months. She can say loads of words but a lot of the time just shouts and screams. She's not upset, just demanding things she wants. Will this get better as she can express herself more clearly? I've fairly recently seen nieces and nephews go through the toddler stage but none were as shouty.

HelenaJustina Sat 26-Dec-15 10:17:48

No... The noise has more meaning but my DC have yet to learn to speak one at a time or to control their volume!

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Sat 26-Dec-15 10:33:28

Ha ha, no.

They get quiter when they get to about 14yo!

GetSchwifty Sat 26-Dec-15 10:37:02

Ha ha ha no! They're only quiet when they are asleep or doing something they know they shouldn't!

FishWithABicycle Sat 26-Dec-15 10:38:36

We have experienced significant periods of peace and quiet once they can read to themselves.
Demands will only reduce in volume if you as parents consistently refuse to grant any request that isn't made politely at an appropriate volume. If loud demands are more successful than quiet ones, loud ones will be more frequent. This training can't start just yet though for you as it requires cognitive abilities which are usually not yet there in a toddler just learning to talk.

megletthesecond Sat 26-Dec-15 10:39:20


I've spent years reminding mine of using quiet indoor voices and it's made no difference.

Flumplet Sat 26-Dec-15 11:31:12

Nope!! My 4yo ds has two settings - loud and asleep. False hope unfortunately op!!

bellyflabby Sat 26-Dec-15 11:34:04

My 4 to is even more demanding now, and the talking, she never stops talkinggrin

bellyflabby Sat 26-Dec-15 11:34:33


Schwabischeweihnachtskanne Sat 26-Dec-15 11:43:46

I think it depends too.

I think we forget a bit quite quickly what each stage was like (unless we still have a child in that stage plus an older one) even though some people take great offence at the idea.

I think people love telling parents with younger kids that things only get harder - its a bloody depressing thing to hear and blatently untrue. Things get different, some phases are harder than others, and children vary but parents also vary (some parents genuinely find toddlers harder than teens, even though others find the reverse - because proportionally not many parents have both simultaneously toddler parents usually get told "you have no idea - this part's easy, just you wait..." santa ).

I think some kids do get quieter (just in terms of actual measurable volume) once they can talk.

My 3 (10, 8, nearly 5) are all school age and playing very quietly at the moment - and if they are noisy I can chuck them outside to play football and watch from the window. So although they all talk a lot and sometimes all at the same time, they don't screech at me like a 15 month old might...

Of course somebody must now tell me to just wait til I have 3 teens, they'll all screech at me at once then (but then I can always relax the no tech gadgets in rooms rule and let them lock themselves in their rooms and stop talking to me at all if it gets too much santa )


IsurvivedXmas Sat 26-Dec-15 11:54:13

NO! They just shout for longer.
You didn't notice nieces and nephews shouting cos they weren't shouting for you grin.

Groovee Sat 26-Dec-15 11:55:24

My kids got quieter as they got older, but more pre teen age.

ExitStageLeft Sat 26-Dec-15 11:57:44

No.....--eyes DS--

Schwabischeweihnachtskanne Sat 26-Dec-15 12:38:36

Oh come on ... if they're still shouting, screaming and screeching for you by the time they are 3+ and can talk properly that does raise a little bit if a question about your parenting (either that's what you model or you've always responded to volume rather than refused to answer til they come into the room and speak to you properly)...

Being loud and talking a lot aren't the same thing...

If they play loudly they can be kicked outdoors for a bit encouraged to play outside or to be quieter if they choose to stay inside, but the out of control shouting is toddler specific unless they have a special need related to communication problems or you just all shout all the time/ have prolonged the shoutyness by responding to shouting with more prompt attention than normal communication consistently...

Getyercoat Sat 26-Dec-15 14:13:58

No no and no here. DS never stops. His mouth must be moving all day. And he's loud.

MimsyBorogroves Sat 26-Dec-15 14:17:40


DS1, at 7, still has no sense of volume control. He makes my eyes water sometimes - he feels the need to bellow. Or mutter if he's annoyed/whiny/out to annoy me.

DS2, 4, is just an ongoing monologue of exhaustingness, and if you forget to reply to him because you thought he may be pausing for breath rather than expecting a response he will start again at the beginning with "mummy"/"daddy"/whoever.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon Sat 26-Dec-15 14:23:46

Dd was always quiet in volumne terms, never a shouter. Id have thought that most kids would stop that by ore school/reception age if they were shouters as a toddler.

When I say she wasn't quiet until she was a teenager it was more constant I wish she would talk more. grin. You spend years wanting some peace and then worry they don't communicate enough when you have got some peace.

lanbro Sat 26-Dec-15 14:29:20

Dd2, 2.3, is sooooo loud! She is a good talker but is no good at volume control. She can whisper but soon forgets and goes back to sounding like a market trader! Dd1 3.9 is much better but both together they have to be reminded regularly to keep the volume down!

2ndSopranosRule Sat 26-Dec-15 18:22:12

The volume may decrease but the level of output won't... Dd's are 8 and 5 and talk incessantly from 6 am to 7 pm. At least the 8 yo has interesting things to say these days...

CoteDAzur Sat 26-Dec-15 18:25:46

LOL. That would be a... NO.

YeOldeTrout Sat 26-Dec-15 19:34:56

No, er, sorry.

Shall I find you a link to where to buy earplugs online?? fgrin

Bounced Sat 26-Dec-15 19:39:58

We have a family hand signal for 'talk more quietly' that I still use quite a lot.

But I agree with a PP, the overall noise decreases substantially once they learn to read fluently.

YeOldeTrout Sat 26-Dec-15 19:43:02

omg, it doesn't get more interesting, either. At least there's something vaguely cute about "ba ba ba ba ba baba...eeeee EEEEEEEE SHRIEK!! "

whereas a running monologue about clash of clans-star wars-Danielle is isn't is isn't is my friend today-Games Workshop-tanks ... I need a timer to wake me up sometimes.

LittleLionMansMummy Tue 29-Dec-15 17:21:59

Not in my experience. 5yo ds has verbal diarrhoea. He also sings constantly, wherever he is, whatever he's doing. He's very, very loud.

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