My DD is being extremely rude and defiant at the moment, yesterday, tired and hungry when she came in from school, she was horrendously rude, called me stupid and dumb because I simply explained that what she was looking for in the fridge was finished. She was rough with her sister, knocking her out of the way as she passed her and calling her names too.
I confiscated her phone and iPad and she proceeded to upturn the whole house to find them, cushions thrown on the floor, papers swiped off the worktop, drawers and cupboards flung open, threw cushions at me and refused to go to her room. I was beside myself with outrage and had to lock myself in my bedroom for fear I would totally lose it with her and get physical, she then damaged my bedroom door trying to open it, it is going to cost money to have it repaired.
She finally calmed down and wrote me a very emotional apology note, and ended up falling asleep around 7.30pm exhausted. However, she has not tidied up the mess she has created, the house looks like it has been ransacked and, hard as it is, I am leaving it like this for as long as I can deal with looking at it, hopefully she will get sense and tidy it up before I end up having to do it.
This morning when she got up, despite all the apologies last night and the /I love you's', she purposely dragged her feet to get out to school and rude again when I asked her to hurry up.
I just don't know what else to do, DH is working abroad at the moment and while he is supportive on the phone, it is not the same as having him around to face it together.
I am thinking of selling her phone and iPad to pay for repairing the damage to the door, but that is somehow an own goal as we won't get much for them. any suggestions on the consequences I should put in place if I do end up having to tidy up the house, as I sit here in the mess she created yesterday, I am so tempted to go and upend her perfectly tidy and neat bedroom, but I know that would not be the adult thing to do.
I also want to block her laptop so that she can only access school stuff, googleclassroom etc. but don't know how to do it. All the school homework, resources etc are online, they even submit their homework online, the kids all Skype each other in the evening as they are doing homework, it's ridiculous.
I know that cutting off the electronic social interactions will be a big consequence for her.
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12 year old pushing things to the extreme, at my wits end
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Tram10 · 12/10/2015 06:13
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