I have two DS, aged just 5 and nearly 3. They are close and play together nicely probably 70% of the time, but this is mainly when the younger goes along with what the older wants. DS1 isn't unreasonable, he comes up with fun games and is actually pretty nice, but they do this thing where DS2 will do something DS1 doesn't like, 1 says "stop it" or "not like that" and if DS2 ignores him, he gets walloped by DS1.
I feel like I have tried everything to get DS1 to use words to tell him what he wants or doesn't want but it is having no effect. I've done sending to his room, explaining how DS2 is younger so doesn't always know what he wants, and also that it's fine if DS2 doesn't do what he wants etc. I've tried asking how he would feel if we just whacked him if he didn't do what we wanted.
I need help making DS1 understand that he cannot hit, and that he needs to use words. Help!
I'm an onlyl child so these sibling relationship things don't come naturally to me but I don't want DS1 to be the bad guy but also dont want DS2 to live in fear.
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Rubygillis · 01/09/2015 12:01
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