Hi
I wondered if there is anyone else here who actively parents as a mum in a part time custody arrangement?
My son starts school this September, will be 5 later this year. I have never been maternal, before carrying him I'd always said I would be the parent with less custody, that isn't how it's panned out, my ex has him alternate weekends and is useless in between, we don't get on, there's no real support there and life would be simpler without, but it is what it is. Over the last 4.5 years I've considered taking a "part time" role probably 4/5 times, this isn't something new. I've tried continuously to work through it and step up, fearful of my son feeling abandoned, fearful of being a let down, the judgement of being selfish, potentially part of the decision may be but the crux is I want what's best for him. Tbh I just can't do it anymore, I never had the maternal instinct or bond, I carried him, I love him and I don't want to not see him, but as the primary parent I just don't cope. The stress and pressure I put myself under makes me angry, I snap, have no patience and the situation isn't fun for anyone.
I'd never hand over primary to my ex (no biological connection but has been present from conception to now aside from the fact I know they won't step up). My choice would be to co-parent with my parents, my son has an excellent bond with them, their life is routine, stable and calm. Deep down I know this is the right choice... But I did wonder if anyone else has experienced this or stepped back in the parenting role post split? I definitely fall more natural into the stereotyped male role, but it's so unusual for women to do this :(
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Bobtail15 · 29/07/2015 13:02
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