I've read up about foreskin care as want to make sure I know what current advise is. Basically - leave them alone! When foreskin is ready to be retracted chances are the boy will have worked it out themselves.
I've also read that it might be worthwhile telling them that this will happen so when it does, it's not too alarming. Also to mention about general hygiene/cleaning underneath in the bath once it fully retracts.
My question is, is 3yo too young to mention what will happen to DS1? He often plays with his willy and I've noticed it balloons sometimes when he pees - a sign that the foreskin is starting to separate naturally apparently.
I don't want to mention it to him if it means he'll try to retract it before it's ready - although my rational mind tells me this is unlikely.
I did nothing, said nothing then at 4 he had a huge infection and had to be circumcised. His foreskin was attached to his glands so was always going to be an issue but I was distraught and questioned whether it was my fault for not doing something.
The consultant reassured me saying leave it alone completely as foreskins are self cleaning and shouldn't be yanked about (until the boys start doing it themselves.)