DD1 is 5 years old. She's a very quiet little girl and gets quite anxious about things. In familiar environments she's more confident. She's very intelligent and is doing well in school (after a shaky start where she would scream and cry not to be separated from us). She's only recently become confident when she goes to a friends birthday party, before this she would spend the whole party clinging to us, crying, then only finding the confidence to join in just before it finished. That's just a little background to explain what she's like.
DD doesn't have any hobbies outside of school. We've tried to get her to join clubs, both after school clubs (so in a familiar environment) and evening/weekend clubs such as swimming. Any mention of them she gets visibly upset. We've promised to stay with her, sit on the side etc but she shows no interest. We haven't pushed it and left it at that.
Last week she came home from school with a letter about a local gymnastics class. She was so excited and told me she wanted to join! Fantastic, I couldn't believe it! I thought I'm not letting this one go, let's strike now the iron is hot! I contacted the club and arranged for her to start yesterday. Well it went terrible. She was so excited on the way there, but as soon as we got there she cried the whole time. They even allowed me to get involved so that she wasn't alone (not a pretty sight seeing me jumping around!). Other little girls, even ones younger than her, were trying to hold her hand to get her involved but she just stood there crying. You would swear she had been dragged there under duress. We left early because she was so distressed and she's told me she doesn't want to go back.
I was so excited that this might be the start of something for her. All her classmates seem to go to various clubs, I've even tried getting her to join clubs her friends already go to, but she's not interested.
I suppose what I'm here to ask is, is this healthy? Do we just accept the fact she doesn't want to go anywhere, or do we keep trying? I'm not saying I want her to be at a different club every night, maybe just one a week so she has a hobby that she can enjoy? She's such a happy little girl at home, we have a happy, loving home life, myself and my DH are happily married, so it's not as if she's living in a hostile environment that's causing her anxiety. I just don't know what is best for her in the long run, I don't want to make her anxiety worse but if she doesn't get involved with anything then surely it's not going to get any better?
Any words of advice would be much appreciated.
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alovelyday · 10/07/2015 11:47
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