Hi, I'm using my friend's Mumsnet account so I hope no one minds, she's kindly given me access as apparently you are all very brutally honest on here, which is good.
I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now. Everything is great on the surface, we were really happy and got serious pretty quickly, so I ended up moving in with him within 5 months. My big issue is this:
1. He keeps changing his mind about age to have children/if he wants them or not. At first he said he wanted them soon at the beginning of our relationship, then he said he wanted to wait 4/5 years, and now he doesn't really want them and today he said in front of his Mother that he 'doesn't want kids until 28/30', which he's mentioned to me recently too. I want them quite soon, as I'm financially stable and ready (I know the work they intone, I handraised my own brother due to complications with my Mum's health. So this is a HUGE issue for me.
2. He wants to TRAVEL. Like, he keeps bringing up, 'will you travel with me/will you come to Alaska, Brazil, Australia etc etc'.
3. He has a curiously low sex drive, which no where near matches my own.
I feel guilty too because yes, he KNOWS how much children mean to me and won't budge, but I also KNOW how much this whole travelling Melark interests and excited him. (He's already said he wouldn't think of travelling without me). Perhaps it's not healthy that I won't support him and encourage him to grow as a person? So I'm also to blame.
I just need some opinions, because quite frankly I love him with all I have, it's just we want such opposite things in life.