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Am I a bad person ?(10 Posts)
So my partners parents have this dog and they beat the poor thing. So he has a short temper and will go for anyone. I gave them the chance to put the dog in a seperate room while we were here with our kids 3 and a 10 month crawling baby. The dog went for my daughter thankfully it was just her clothes that he caught. She wasn't even near the dog. She lifted her arms for my partner to pick her up. Every movement that dog is on her. I dont let my son crawl on the floor so he is limited to what he does there. It's is not fair on either of them. So i stopped going with the kids and wouldn't allow my partner to take them. I have NEVER and never would stop them from seeing their grandkids. They are welcome to come here any time they like but they don't. My partner kept saying to give them a cchance and they will leave the dog in a seperate room. So for my partners sake I did, we were there for five minutes and they got fed up of the dog barking so let him in!! I grabbed my kids and left. So put my foot down and said no chance they blew it. My partners mum has said to my face that she does not trust the dog around my kids!! His dad doesn't like coming to my house because he doesn't wsnt to see me. That's the only reason so he is missing out on his grandkids ! He seen them for half an hour on my daughters birthday in April and then the last time was boxing day when their dog went for my ddaughter. They don't like my decision and my partner supported me well so I thought. Today he has really kicked of at me as he wants us to all go up. I said no im not putting my kids at risk I have given them chances and they blew it. I am not having that dog bite one of my kids to prove my point ! So he has turned around and said that he isn't going on holiday as its putting the kids at risk ? (We are supposed to be going tomorrow) and that he isn't coming back and walked out.
Am I a bad person?
Sorry for the long post
No your not a bad person.
That was a very extreme reaction by your partner, does he always go of in a strop when he doesn't get his own way?
No your not a bad person at all!!!
You gave them a chance and they blew it. More than I would have given to be perfectly honest. I have a dog myself who shows absolutely no interest in my DD and actually leaves the room when she's there. I would never ever let my dog within 5 meters of my DD just incase. They are dogs and dogs can hurt children.
It's much better to be safe than sorry! Well done for putting your foot down. You childrens well being is more important than your partners mood swings.
Also if they beat the dogs maybe consider a call to the NSPCC?
He goes in a strop a fair bit. Especial if I was to do something that would make his mum cry (which I wouldnt intend to do it will always be because im thinking of my kids)
My mum has a dog and he is soft as much but we are always still very carefully and watch him. My daughter loves him. So im glad it's not put her off dogs she is such an animal lover. But I just can't cope if my kids would of gotten hurt if I gave them one more chance.
I just feel horrible and im always being made out to be the bad person with them when im just trying to look out for my kids
I have very much considered it! They had a dog before and he got put down because he had bit a child. I dont trust them. And I don't see how my partner can. I have thought a lot about reporting them but.im scared in case my partner would leave me because of it.
I've posted a thread about taking my new baby to see pils with scary dogs recently too and the overwhelming response is that your children come first and it's not worth putting them in danger for the sake of the dog! Yanbu at all
You're doing the right thing. I wouldn't have my ds anywhere near a dog. Your partner is behaving like a spoiled child. How would he feel if the dog hurt one of your kids?
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