Ds1 is 12 and likes almost everyone. He is really sociable and always wants to be with friends, and is much happier like this.
There are a few boys in the street who are not very nice and I don't know whether to tell him not to play with them/hang around with them, or let him and see what happens.
I don't know if it is about his not having great boundaries, and taking stuff he shouldn't take iyswim, or if he knows what he's doing and can handle it?
The boys in question are unpleasant in different ways and might become lovely people eventually but one of them has sworn at ds, upset various other children, and when ds tells an adult what happened, he gets texts calling him a retard and so on. I advised blocking the number and he did and since then, the kid has apologised and they now hang out but only with other kids present - ie they are rubbing shoulders but not close.
I still worry he might try it on again and ds will end up hurt again.
The other kid lies all the time, swears at and tries to start fights with other kids, who ds gets on well with, and comes from a very unhappy family. I really feel uncomfortable about ds hanging around with him, because I think eventually he will start lying about ds as well. He constantly says things that are total rubbish about the other boys (so and so was horrible to him, said such and such, etc)
There are plenty of lovely boys I trust him with and think highly of.
So would you encourage him to follow his nose and hang about with anyone available, or to be more selective and have some standards about being lied to, being called names etc? I don't want him to think he has no option but to let them walk over him, but it seems like water off a duck at the moment and I don't know if this is a great quality to encourage iyswim.
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Encourage, or discourage playing with these children?
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SophieHatters · 16/06/2015 10:48
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