I gave up my job many years ago (DS 17 DD 14) to be SAHM. Loved job in music biz but no flexible working in those days and would have worked late having a lovely time going to gigs etc...sadly doesn't work with babies. Also DH was earning less but needed an opportunity to grow his career. Kids appreciated it when they were younger though DH still thought that he was the only one doing all the work as he had a 9-5, & screaming babies was easy peasy. Since they are teenagers both DH, DS & DD often say "you don't do anything" (wonder where they got that message from ?)...well...red rag to a cow ...I work as a volunteer in a charity (for over 6 years now), sort out DIY , builders etc.. at home, am a reluctant house keeper, manage holiday let and navigate school issues & commitments, organise holidays, leisure activities, the latter just to have a sense of self ! You get the picture. But it is coming back to bite me because apart from holiday let, I don't earn money so I am told "I don't do anything". Well blow me down, i thought I did. DH thinks that going to work every day, ie going to an office & getting paid is near enough the only thing that a DH should do, (he is Italian) . Also I have brought in family money to the table (& alongside that the family sword of Damocles hanging over my head which I also have to manage) so from that perspective he is not the only one who contributes financially.
Suggestions on how to feel a tad more recognised....Grrr.
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Giving up job to be SAHM, come back to bite me
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Crosspollenation · 10/06/2015 09:30
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