Reaching the end of Maternity Leave

(6 Posts)
Buglife Wed 20-May-15 14:39:25

Is anyone else in the same position? 9 month DS and I've taken extended so I will be going back end of July, 3 weeks before his 1st birthday. He will be spending 2 days in nursery while I work 1.5 days, then I'll work one day evey weekend while he's home with DH. I debated going back as I felt with childcare costs deducted from my wage, what was left could possibly be saved from household budget and we could get by on one wage. However as time went on I realised I wanted to earn some money, I was worried about giving up a secure, flexible and permanent job which works well with children (DH can bring DS to see me at weekends at my workplace) and that I enjoy, in case I decided in a year I couldn't be a SAHM and had to find another job. I also think nursery will be good for DS and he will enjoy it, I've found an OFSTED outstanding one 5 mins walk away from home, children to help socialise him, so many fun activities that you don't always do at home. All in all I'm positive and happy about this happening, I see good for me and good for DS. I'll have a few hours between work and picking him up to do any pressing chores and I think the time we have together will be more focussed on him because of this. BUT it suddenly seems so close and that the end of maternity will be the end of a really precious and special time. I just wanted to chat with those in a similar position, see how they feel and what their set up will be!

katiegg Wed 20-May-15 18:18:40

I go back to work in 2 weeks, ds will be six months old. I think I'm dreading it and looking forward to it in equal measure. I'm looking forward to some adult company and engaging my brain again! I have found maternity leave quite lonely and isolating at times. But I dread leaving him, even though he will either be with my mum or husband while I'm at work.

I know I'm not cut out to be a stay at home parent, and I'm midway through my training and stopping work now would have quite a detrimental effect on any future career. It's hard though...

PotteringAlong Wed 20-May-15 18:25:40

I'm going back in 5 weeks. I think I'm more worried about how ds1 will cope than ds2.

Buglife Thu 21-May-15 09:54:03

Hello! I think dreading it AND looking forward to it is true, I also feel a bit deflated as I thought the nursery seemed lovely, and I thought it would be beneficial to him so I have been excited and optimistic about him enjoying it, but then when I talk to some people about nursery they do massive sad face and talk like its a bad thing he 'has' to go to nursery. And then get told that a nanny/childminder would be better. But to me, if I'm not looking after him in my own home then a totally different setting would be better, rather than just replace myself with a nanny. Childminder was an option as I know some great ones, but I like nursery. Sadly my mother lives 300 miles away or she'd look after him any day, she adores him.

The main worry in this is of course not knowing how DS will react. He is an adaptable boy routine wise who loves being around people, eats well etc and isn't a big cryer. But it is such a big change I can't assume he'll breeze through it.

Pottering how old is DS1? Have you been back to work between DS1 and DS2?

My DD is 6 weeks tomorrow and I'm due back at work in July and totally dreading it. DH is becoming a SAHD as he didn't earn anything like what childcare will cost and I earn well but I'm gutted I'll have to leave my baby so soon!! sad

Imeg Wed 27-May-15 19:33:29

Just a little reassurance that I have done this recently and it's worked out ok so far: despite minimal financial benefit I have gone back 2 days a week, 1 year old has started nursery 2 days a week as for various reasons that was the best option. The settling in sessions weren't great as for some reason they were just after lunch so right in his nap slot, but once he was there all day he really took to it. He always eats everything and he slept for over an hour the first day at nap time.
He used to protest a bit when I dropped him off and picked him up (even though when I picked him up I could see that he was playing happily until he spotted me). Now he doesn't usually even cry when I drop him off.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now