Feel guilty...

[MummyLuce]

I was out with my toddler and baby today. We had had a lovely day, ad we popped into pret to get a tea before arduous tube ride home. That's when it went wrong. Toddler (2) told me he needed to do a poo. I ran and asked the cashier person to open the loo (it was locked). He said "can you use the one downstairs?" I said "not really" - I didn't want to lug buggy, wriggly baby and bursting for the loo toddler down 2 flights of stairs. He said okay, I'll do it in a min. Waited around feeling increasingly stressed until he opened the loo. Anyway, then toddler sat on loo and did nothing. So I pull trousers back up and prepare to leave. He cried and says he wants to do a wee/poo (wasn't specific). I say fine and put him back on loo. Same thing happens. Pull up trousers, we prepare to leave. He cries and says again he wants to do a poo/wee. I say fine, last chance. Same thing happens. We had now been on loo for about 10 mins. I was boling hot in winter coat and baby was sat on toilet floor shouting. it was nearing dinner time and i was pretty stressed. i picked up baby and led toddler out, who by now is crying uncontrollably. Feeling utterly frustrated I shouted at him "you must just do it when you get the chance, I don't want to stay the night in bloody pret, we have to leave now!"and I shouted some
more , i can't remember what I said. I feel really really awful. So guilty and mean. For what it's worth, we got home with no accidents, he was in quite a good mood and he still hasn't done his poo...so hard to remain patient and kind at all times...

[Gumnast2014]

Ah I'm always loosing it. Don't worry. I always apologise after you sounded much more patient then me. I would have seen read after twice

I wasn't given the patient parenting trait but loads of others!

Don't be hard on yourseld

[Linguini]

doesn't sound too bad!
Don't be hard on yourself.

[MummyLuce]

Aw that's nice thank you! ! I never thought of it like that: not having the patient parenting trait but having others! I spend waaaay too long going over stuff in my mind stuff like this but feel loads better now!

[LetticeKnollys]

It's okay, the fact that you're feeling guilty suggests you don't lose it very often, and you didn't say anything hurtful! People get noticeably frustrated in reaction to certain behaviour some times, even mums - IMO it's not necessarily a bad thing for children to have a little exposure to this, it's just part of life.