I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and first became a part of his sons life when he was 2. He is now 4 nearly 5 and his birth mum hasn't been a part of his life since he was 1. This is from a combination of her neglecting him, which led to my boyfriend getting full residency and then her not bothering to even see him when she had supervised visits.
Over the years he has called me Mummy a handful of times to which my boyfriend has corrected him by saying 'no that's (my name)'.
The other day I picked him up from school and he was talking to a girl in his class on the way home. Several times he referred to me as his mummy, then when she went I asked him who his mummy was and he said my name.
I love him to bits and I treat him as if he was my own. My heart melted at the fact I mean so much to him for him to refer to me as his mummy.
However I've had mixed views and responses when I've spoken to friends about it. I understand that I am not biologically his mum, me and his dad aren't married (yet, but I know we are in it for the long run) etc. Don't really know how to go about it all. Do I just ignore it and let him carry on thinking that? Should his dad have a chat with him? If so what would he even say? It's just such a sensitive topic, the word 'mummy' is just never used and its all very delicate.
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Boyfriends son calling me Mummy
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TamTam24 · 01/02/2015 13:42
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