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Going back to work and getting the 'fear' about leaving DS!

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DirtyDancing · 04/01/2015 22:13

It's just hit me tonight! I'm going back to work in a few days and I suddenly feel so sad about leaving my little man. He's with Grandparents as well, so people he knows very well, but it's making me feel sick. I do trust them, but I can't shake the feeling that they are not me, and only I can keep my boy safe. I'm being irrational I know but I've hardly left his side for a year.

The actual work side of thing I feel fine about but I'm going to miss him terribly.

Tell me it gets easier. I'm sitting here crying again! Oh dear I need to just get on with it don't i? Millions of women have to do this every day!! Blush

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NeedaDiscoNap · 04/01/2015 22:19

No advice DirtyDancing but I'm feeling the same - although I'm not back to work for 6 weeks, I already feel miserable about it! Can't bear the thought of leaving my DD.

Sorry this is not helpful! But wanted to let you know you are not alone... Flowers

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Smitten1981 · 04/01/2015 22:20

Snap, I'm back tomorrow and it's just hit me. I feel sick about it. I'm sure we'll get used to it after a while.

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moomin35 · 04/01/2015 22:24

Be thankful you can leave him with grandparents, you're lucky.

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DirtyDancing · 04/01/2015 22:44

Thanks disco & smitten it does help to know I'm not the only one.

I do realize I am lucky, with the GPs that's why I mentioned it. But I don't feel any less sick at how much I will miss him Confused

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stressbucket1 · 05/01/2015 09:07

I have a few week's left of mat leave with Dd2 and I feel sick about how much I will miss both of them! Having done it once before though I know it is hard at first but amazing how quick you get used to it and it makes your time with them more precious and enjoyable. I am trying to look on the bright side and think how lucky I am that I have had a year off ??

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Sazorchard31 · 05/01/2015 09:14

It's not as bad as you think.it will be provided you are happy to be at work.

If you hate your job or don't want a career I expect you'll struggle more.

Good luck and be thankful they are with grandparents.my ddwebtstraight to a nursery ft but we all soon settled into the routine.

Good luck!

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PumpkinPie2013 · 05/01/2015 09:37

Aww, I went back to work full time in August when my ds was 9 months old. I remember feeling exactly the same.

He goes to nursery full time and even though the nursery is outstanding I felt that they wouldn't possibly look after him properly.

It is hard at first but it does get easier and you soon get into a routine.

My ds loves nursery, I enjoy my job (most of the time Wink) and I feel like I got a bit of 'me' back when I returned.

I do miss ds and love the evenings and weekends with him but work is a nice change, a chance to use my skills and finish a cup of tea while it's hot!

Good luck!

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