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Do you allow/tolerate wrestling or rough housing type play indoors?(7 Posts)
I have 2 dds, 6 & 8. They are mostly well behaved, likeable children but the wrestling is driving me crazy.
I just roared at them to stop or they wouldn't have their pizza and would go straight to bed. They were shocked - I rarely raise my voice.
They sullenly agreed and I tried to talk to them about it but am getting nowhere.
DH is all for this kind of play and wrestles them, tickles them, chases them around and that's fine but I think it has it's place. I've tried explaining to him that by the time he gets in from work we are winding down and I find it difficult to listen to. We have an open plan living area so no where to escape if I am cooking to tidying up which I usually am in the evening.
I think dd2 is the main instigator. She is small and light and is forever climbing on her sister or pulling out of her and IT IS SO ANNOYING.
We had a busy day today and I treated them in town and we went for a walk and quick stop at the playground so it's not liked they have been bored and cooped up all day.
Any tips for handling this?
Meant to say DH is away this evening but right on cue just as I am cooking DD2 starts climbing on dd1 and full on wrestling breaks out.
My 2 do - boys aged 5 and 3.
If (when!) things move to someone might get hurt rather than bumped, I warn them to be careful or someone will get hurt, and if it carries on that that level, I will stop it.
There are also times (monthly!), when I have a much lower tolerance, and they get stopped earlier. It is also banned in the kitchen.
I will also tell them to calm down, and sit down as we approach bed time.
I think I have a more lax approach to horse play (and cushions off the sofa, toys out during the day) than many - but the kids put it all back together before bed.
So, I'd say let it happen, interfere before it gets to shouty stage, and set some guidelines (Oh, they also have to clear the floor of hard things, or bits with sharp corners). Many would disagree, I think.
Watching with interest. My DS are 2.4yo and 4 weeks so no wrestling just yet but someone warned me that it'll start earlier than I expect....
Does it usually peter out or does it usually end in someone crying?
If they can regulate it then I'd leave them to it but if they can't then just stop at source saying that one of them always gets hurt and you don't wanna hear all about she said she did later on.
My three boys are almost grown up now, but I was always very relaxed about wrestling & rough housing indoors as long as nobody was getting hurt and they were doing it somewhere where nothing could get damaged. They still do it, especially when they haven't seen each other for a while - they enjoy it & it seems to be a bonding thing with them.
It 's what siblings do
As to exercise, a quick stop at the plsyground won't cut it IMO
I'd say my kids are like pups and need 1-2 hours active stuff a day.
They have stopped wrestling niw they are bigger (10 and 12), but it is just one of those things.... I usually send them outside if they get silly.
But that is harder when it gers dark so early!
I remember my mum telling us to go and run circles around the house , we were allowed back in after 20 rounds
Must be a universal thing kids do
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