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will I ever know my baby?

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flipflopsonfifthavenue Thu 04-Dec-14 15:14:11

DS2 is 4 weeks old. I think am having a hard time adjusting the the difference in needs/demands between a newborn and DS1 who is 2.4yo.

With DS1 my every waking moment was dedicated to making sure he never got too hungry, too tired, too bored, he was picked up at the slightest whimper and basically never cried as he had every need met instantly.

Now poor neglected DS2 has to fit into our life with a lively toddler, and I feel he cries more, mainly as I don't know yet when he's hungry, when he's tired, when he wants to sleep, when he wants some awake time etc. I know that 4 weeks is still tiny, and really all he wants is milk and cuddles and he gets lots of that, but I feel so bad that I don't KNOW him yet.

Will I ever be able to read his cues? Know what he wants? Know what his expressions, sounds, cries mean?? I know its early days but I don't have the time for him that I had for DS1 and that makes me sad.

Will I ever know my baby and be able to give him what he needs? sad

frankiebuns Thu 04-Dec-14 15:38:32

My dd is 15 weeks and I still struggle sometimes my ds has adapted swimmingly and for someone on the asd I am surprised! I still get it wrong sometimes trying to get rtf her to sleep when she's hungry or vice versa! My ds was attended to the moment a murmur came out but dd is so layed back

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