Hi all
Hoping for advice/experience. DD is just turned 2 and is going through a phase of teething on and off with back molars. When the teething is bad, and when this is combined with her getting cross/frustrated eg when another child takes a toy off her, she will sometimes bite or try to bite the other child.
In total she's bitten other kids about 5 times in the last 2 months. Before that she never bit (though she did go through a brief hitting phase, gaain teething related, about 6 months ago).
Obviously we tell her no biting, get cross, explain it hurts and makes people sad, take her away from the situation, home if necessary, etc. She is very verbal and it seems like she understands what we are saying about biting but then forgets when the teething hits/rage descends. She cries after biting and says sorry to the other child, but I think she slightly got the wrong idea about sorry and thinks that means it's all ok??
So my first question is: any tips on how to handle biting at this age?
Next issue is that she is at a pre school one morning a week (it's really a pre-pre school, the children are 18 months to 2.5 years). 2 of the biting incidents have happened at the pre school (last week and 3 weeks ago), plus one "near miss" about 2 months ago. They have said she is beautifully behaved the rest of the time and at least one of the bitings was under severe provocation (lots of pushing and shoving from another child).
However since the last incident they seem to be taking it extremely seriously. I was taken aside by one of the staff at pick up time last week to be told DD had bitten a little boy, how it happened, etc (she had to tell me of course). Then the manager phoned me that afternoon to talk about it more, which surprised me a bit.
Now the manager has emailed me to ask to meet to discuss. I am a bit as I am not sure what more there is to discuss? Obviously I agree it's bad that she's biting, I feel awful about it and I understand the bitee's parents must be upset. But it's only been twice (different children), both very recent, they have said it's a phase some kids go through and suggested 1-2-1 for now. I'm pretty sure when the teething calms down it will stop. I'm not sure what else can be done about it, so I don't know why she wants to meet. I am worried she is going to start talking about excluding DD.
So my second question is: is this a normal reaction from the pre school? Is it really abnormal/worrying for a 2 year old to bite? Are they likely to be thinking of excluding DD? Do I need to try to make it to a meeting with the manager (I work full time so would involve taking time off work)?
Sorry for the essay! Didn't want to leave out anything relevant.
Thank you
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2yo biting and preschool reaction
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minipie · 24/11/2014 17:56
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