I've been doing the bedtime routine for my 2month old since birth, along with all the night feeds. It's still not perfect and though once he's down he sleeps for five hours before waking up for a night feed, the actual getting him settled at around 8ish takes time; rocking, dark room, dummy, swaddling, and I usually stay with him for up to an hour until he nods off. Sometimes it only takes ten minutes. I just never know so go with the flow. It's our first so still quite a novice. The thing is I'd quite like my husband to start doing an evening settling now and then and then perhaps build up to a night feed too, so I can sleep through once in a while. But to be honest, he's still barely able to sooth the baby if he fusses a bit in the day. He gets quite wound up, and any screaming soon really winds him up. I end up just doing it myself to avoid him getting into a mood. The one time he tried he was in the bedroom three hours and still no sleepy baby and I had to eventually go in, managed to settle the baby quite quickly, but husband was fuming by this point. I know he hasn't really fully bonded yet, which I know takes time, but I guess I'm just asking what tips you can share for getting dads up to speed a bit more? I wonder if I'm being a bit too 'easy' on him by not just throwing him in the deep end with the baby more? He works so has seen the baby far less of course.
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DesertDweller · 30/08/2014 18:08
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