Cosleepers question!

[sotiredfornow]

If your DC go to sleep at 7.00 for 12 hours when do you go to sleep? If you don't go to bed until say 10pm are they perfectly happy sleeping alone for the first few hours? Do they drop off easily alone?

[dyslexicdespot]

I go to bed at around 9 or 10. DS (2.5 years old), sleeps alone until DH and I go to bed. Although, I breast feed DS to sleep before leaving him. We have never left him to fall sleep alone.

[DreamingOfAFullNightsSleep]

Can't get my nearly two year old to fall asleep alone, though we are up to lying on his bed with him. He always wakes by 10:30pm then comes in with me. dh decamps to his room! used to bf to sleep, then rock so I guess it's painfully slow progress.

[DreamingOfAFullNightsSleep]

Oh. no chance he'd sleep for 12 hours though :(

[JabberJabberJay]

My youngest DD (2.5) goes to sleep around 7.00 in her own bed. She settles to sleep well.

She usually wakes between 10 and 12 and I bring her into my bed then. She sleeps with me for the rest of the night.

[BigDogLittleDog]

I feed my 6mo to sleep and stay in bed go to sleep about an hour later because I'm usually exhausted from night waking a and 5am starts!

[dyslexicdespot]

Forgot to add that while DS sleeps for about about 12 hours without waking, I breast feed him in his sleep throughout the early morning.

[badidea]

DS2 is 10 months, I feed him, then DH rocks him to sleep and puts him in our bed at about 7:15pm. At 10pm, I then go to bed in DS1's room (on sofa bed) and DH joins DS2 in our bed for the night.

All three of us used to share a bed, but DS2 started having nights where he wanted to 'graze' every 40 minutes (prior to that he'd only wake once or twice a night) which wasn't fun, so I took away the 'all night buffet' and now I just go through to feed him when he actually wants a feed and not just 'because it's there' :-)

DS2 has always taken all his daytime naps alone in our bed, so he's quite happy to sleep there by himself.

DS1 didn't really 'self-settle' until he was 3 years old, prior to that, we'd read him stories until he fell asleep (up to 9 stories or more) or we'd read him 3 stories, switch off the light and sit with him until he fell asleep (usually about an hour later sometimes more, sometimes a lot less (esp if he was tired).

The night he started sending us out his room after stories so he could fall asleep by himself was fantastic :-)

[BocaDeTrucha]

Ds is 6 months old. Dh takes him upstairs and gives him a bottle at about 8pm and he goes to sleep in his cot at the end of our bed. We then go to bed around 11ish.

Whenever he wakes up I bf then he comes to sleep in our bed. He can go back in his cot but I find he wakes up less often if he's back in our bed... Plus el both love him being there.... Everyone is happy

[BrianTheMole]

I used to put dc in my bed in a sleep positioner, although I have a feeling you're not supposed to use those now. I had a monitor that clipped to the nappy, and I would lie with them until they fell asleep. And then pop up and check on them periodically until I went to bed myself a few hours later.

[Thumbwitch]

DS2 is nearly 18mo and he goes to bed a few hours before I do. Can't get him into the cot, and even if I could, he wouldn't stay asleep in there because he's a roller and a wriggler.
I used to feed him to sleep and then put him in the bed, which is one side against the wall and a bumper on the other. Now he might not go to sleep after his warm milk so I'll either cuddle him to sleep on the sofa, or take him to the bed and cuddle him to sleep there (quicker). Then he stays there until I go to sleep; sometimes he wakes when I come in, sometimes he doesn't, but if he does then he'll want a feed.
Just lately he's been feeding more through the night again - we'd got it to one feed and then sleep through til morning but something's changed.

[BrunoBrookesDinedAlone]

Up to bed around 8, feed, sleep, slink away until whenever.

Rarely wake when we come to bed!

We've got a cot set against my side of the bed with the cot mattress at the same height as our mattress, so a kind of bed conservatory extension ;)

If I'm so tired I can't bear the thought of a night feed, or the all-night buffet habit seems to be kicking in, we swap places for a night - DC will grumble but nod back off if it's DH next to them.

DC is a year and a bit!

[mustardtomango]

Really interested in some of these replies... Ds snacks a lot overnight, and my back could do with a break from curling round him. Hadn't even considered snuggling to sleep, or swapping with Dh. Thanks ladies!