Hi....I don't know how to get out of this mess.
I posted a few months back about my wife letting our 6yo go on his Nintendo and IPad constantly up to 4 hours on a weekday and a lot more on a weekend....We were haing massive arguments. she said he enjoys it and there is no problem.....I am the opposite don't mind any technology as long as it's limited to say 1 hr a day for example and it goes along with good behavior blah blah blah.
Well my wife won't compromise one inch so it has cost us our marriage...We have split up selling the House and she has asked for a divorce. We are still living together with our 3 children 2,6 and 12 and have barely spoke for 2 month......she even let's the 12 yo have unlimited iPad in the bedroom non stop.....The only time I see her is when she comes down from her bedroom to say goodnight......it's unreal I am not allowed to challenge anybody whatsoever.
I try to get them to do activities games etc all the time but they are not interested as they have she pad etc.....She just cause a scene and tantrums and my wife says I cannot make them do what they don't want to do etc.
Every night is the same.....Kids come in from school and she let's have the technology immediately non stop until they go to bed......they even have the pads whilst having dinner.......and when she puts the 6 Yo to bed she lets him watch pad in bed for half an hour!!!!!!
She says the kids can stop with me every Tuesday night and every other weekend in our future custody arrangement....I am moving out of the house I built!!!! Into rented in approx 3 weeks
I am in total despair and pain as all the nights they are not with me I will just picture them sat at home wasting their time for hours on end on a bloody screen
I asked for 50/50 joint custody but she said no chance as she has invested more time than me when bringing them up.......yes that's true I suppose but that was the arrangement.... I work full time she works part time .....very very normal in my book ...I still love them as much as she does.
I funded 90% of the house build so she says she she will just take her 10% back in the divorce if I agree to her custody schedule which is a pittance of what I am used to seeing them.......so basically blackmailed.
Once I am away from the kids I worry about what quality of life they are going to have........It hurts like crazy don't know what to do for the best.
We have been together for 8 years married for 3.....both our young boys are mine and the 12yo is my wifes daughter from a previous.......my wife lost her mum a year ago and she has never been the same since.....She says life is too short for rules and boundarys and she now it's this line out for every situation......drives me mad.
How do I look after my kids????????????help my 2yo is now also starting o get addicted to the pads......when I take it off the 6 yo it's like world war bloody 3......but I only do this when my wife is not around otherwise she would kick off with me or just sit there saying nothing whilst my darling son thinks I am some kind of Monster who just wants to spoil his fun.
Aghhhhhhhhh it's lose lose every where I look
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rb512022 · 11/03/2014 20:44
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