I'm right in thinking I don't need to take ds to the Drs for this, right?

[wibblyjelly]

DS is 17 months, and goes to nursery. He has recently discovered his penis, and likes holding it any chance he gets (Nappy changes are now a lot more fun ).
Nursery have obviously noticed as well, as there was a note in his book yesterday saying we may wish to take him to the Drs to get advice about it.
I'd get laughed at by the Dr, right? DH and I are happy that he is just exploring, and there is nothing to be concerned about, which is what we said to the staff yesterday. Surely the Dr would just confirm that it's perfectly normal?

[Patilla]

What would they expect the dr to do? Hand you duct tape to stick his arms to his side?!

If you aren't concerned and he is in no distress then I'd leave it be. Sometimes the more attention a behaviour gets, the worse it becomes.

If you think he is old enough then a gentle "not outside love" can help teach about social conventions,

But yes it's entirely normal. Trust your instincts.

[wibblyjelly]

Thanks Patilla. We are saying to him to only do it in private, but I think he's a bit too young to understand at the moment

[Weegiemum]

Don't all boys do this?

I'm imagining my GP dh trying to keep a straight face if this was in front of him. He'd manage, but he'd be roaring afterwards!

[Cigarettesandsmirnoff]

My god what rubbish!

My brother used to try yank his off! He was obsessed with it. Do they ever really get over being obsessed it!

[LadyGardenersQuestionTime]

Well, the only thing is it might be worth having a look at it to check there is nothing itchy or sore that might be encouraging the additional attention.

But I bet there isn't.

[wibblyjelly]

'Thank you for bring D's in, Mrs Jelly. I'm happy to confirm you have a perfectly normal toddler'

[MrsSpencerReid]

Like everyone else said!! As long as it doesn't look sore I think the dr is a waste of time!! The joys of little boys

[Hawkmoth]

I'm worried that they are worried TBH. If they don't know it's normal that's a training gap.

[tshirtsuntan]

cigarettesandsmirnoff "my brother used to try and try and yank his off" surely that should say wank?!

[Cigarettesandsmirnoff]

Oh tshirt he was only two!

That came much later from collecting stuck together boxers from under the bed VOM

NEVER AGAIN

[Poledra]

GP friend of mine told a story once about a mother who had asked him about her little boy constantly tugging on his willy. GP said not to worry, it's fine, perfectly normal blah blah. The anxious parent then enquired when his fascination with his willy would stop. GP, without thinking, replied 'Oh, when he's about 25 or so.' The mother did not see the funny side....

[wibblyjelly]

Maybe they are concerned as people have said that it's maybe itching, but he's not scratching it. He just likes to hold it, I think. He giggles when it goes hard, which is why I'm thinking it's not bothering him

[lighteningmcmama]

I agree that it's more worrying that they thought it was worrying. If you're sure there's no infection I would be having a chat with the nursery more than anything. I had a kind if similar experience when preschool told me they were concerned that ds had attempted to breast feed a soft toy-I told then at the time, and a few days later again because I couldn't shake it out of my mind, that I found that totally and utterly unconcernig and absolutely fine, because he's just learning. Oh, but my sister advised me when I raised it a second time to first ask why they were concerned, in case there was something I had missed in the story

[wibblyjelly]

The lady who wrote the note had left for the day. We did mention it to another lady there, and they said we weren't concerned. When we explained we think he just likes it, they agreed, so a bit of difference in opinion between the staff. I'll mention it again today if I see the lady who wrote it in the first place

[monkeymadness1]

Unless nursery think he may be touching it because it is sore and it could be a medical issue?

[monkeymadness1]

Oops should have read other responses first.

Speak to them OP and ask why they think he needs to see a GP!

[Guardianto2]

All boys do this, Is he making it sore or anything that needs to be seen?

[wibblyjelly]

I spoke to the worker today. She first of all apologised (before I said anything) about how it had come across. She had just wanted to let us know the Dr should see him if we were concerned that it was itchy for him.

[matana]

Ahhh, man's obsession with his willy. Begins in toddlerhood.... and never ends. No, you do not need to take him to the doctor. What a weird comment for them to make.

[matana]

Sorry just read their explanation. That's ok then. Perfectly normal. [Smile]

[BikeRunSki]

Erm..... Don't adult men do this too?

[mummyxtwo]

I'm a GP. Boys play with their willies. Sometimes they tug at them and see how far they'll stretch - if they do that a lot it might get sore! As they get older you can explain it is more polite not to fiddle away down there in public. Guaranteed they will still fiddle in private. When does it stop? Um. It doesn't. Bizarre that your nursery thought there was something odd about this! I am pretty sure you can't live in an isolated pocket of the world where other boys inexplicably don't fiddle with their willies.

[wibblyjelly]

Thanks mummy, I figured that would be a gps reaction if I went to see them, especially as I don't think its spread or anything. The nursery worker did say to me today though that she's never seen a little boy as obsessed with it as my ds.

[wibblyjelly]

OK, I don't need Dr advice, but I do need MN advice! Ds is managing to work his penis free at night (last 2), through a sleep suit and a sleeping bag, which has meant he has wet through. It's not bothering him, as he doesn't cry, but it can't be comfortable, and the washing machine will start to protest at the increased workload.
Any suggestions on stopping him doing it at night? I'm thinking maybe a 2nd nappy on the other way, maybe?