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I'm right in thinking I don't need to take ds to the Drs for this, right?

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wibblyjelly Thu 06-Mar-14 11:30:14

DS is 17 months, and goes to nursery. He has recently discovered his penis, and likes holding it any chance he gets (Nappy changes are now a lot more fungrin ).
Nursery have obviously noticed as well, as there was a note in his book yesterday saying we may wish to take him to the Drs to get advice about it.
I'd get laughed at by the Dr, right? DH and I are happy that he is just exploring, and there is nothing to be concerned about, which is what we said to the staff yesterday. Surely the Dr would just confirm that it's perfectly normal?

Patilla Thu 06-Mar-14 11:57:55

What would they expect the dr to do? Hand you duct tape to stick his arms to his side?!

If you aren't concerned and he is in no distress then I'd leave it be. Sometimes the more attention a behaviour gets, the worse it becomes.

If you think he is old enough then a gentle "not outside love" can help teach about social conventions,

But yes it's entirely normal. Trust your instincts.

wibblyjelly Thu 06-Mar-14 12:04:13

Thanks Patilla. We are saying to him to only do it in private, but I think he's a bit too young to understand at the moment smile

Weegiemum Thu 06-Mar-14 12:06:29

Don't all boys do this?

I'm imagining my GP dh trying to keep a straight face if this was in front of him. He'd manage, but he'd be roaring afterwards!

Cigarettesandsmirnoff Thu 06-Mar-14 12:07:47

My god what rubbish!

My brother used to try yank his off! He was obsessed with it. Do they ever really get over being obsessed it! grin

Well, the only thing is it might be worth having a look at it to check there is nothing itchy or sore that might be encouraging the additional attention.

But I bet there isn't.

wibblyjelly Thu 06-Mar-14 12:10:34

'Thank you for bring D's in, Mrs Jelly. I'm happy to confirm you have a perfectly normal toddler' grin

MrsSpencerReid Thu 06-Mar-14 12:18:39

Like everyone else said!! As long as it doesn't look sore I think the dr is a waste of time!! The joys of little boys grin

Hawkmoth Thu 06-Mar-14 12:23:18

I'm worried that they are worried TBH. If they don't know it's normal that's a training gap.

tshirtsuntan Thu 06-Mar-14 12:44:25

cigarettesandsmirnoff "my brother used to try and try and yank his off" surely that should say wank?! grin grin

Cigarettesandsmirnoff Thu 06-Mar-14 12:51:51

Oh tshirt he was only two!

That came much later from collecting stuck together boxers from under the bed VOM

NEVER AGAIN

MiaowTheCat Thu 06-Mar-14 12:53:21

Unless nursery are flagging it up in case he's twiddling away down there because it's hurting or itching him to get it looked at just in case?

Poledra Thu 06-Mar-14 12:57:53

GP friend of mine told a story once about a mother who had asked him about her little boy constantly tugging on his willy. GP said not to worry, it's fine, perfectly normal blah blah. The anxious parent then enquired when his fascination with his willy would stop. GP, without thinking, replied 'Oh, when he's about 25 or so.' The mother did not see the funny side....

wibblyjelly Thu 06-Mar-14 12:59:52

Maybe they are concerned as people have said that it's maybe itching, but he's not scratching it. He just likes to hold it, I think. He giggles when it goes hard, which is why I'm thinking it's not bothering himgrin

lighteningmcmama Thu 06-Mar-14 13:27:48

I agree that it's more worrying that they thought it was worrying. If you're sure there's no infection I would be having a chat with the nursery more than anything. I had a kind if similar experience when preschool told me they were concerned that ds had attempted to breast feed a soft toy-I told then at the time, and a few days later again because I couldn't shake it out of my mind, that I found that totally and utterly unconcernig and absolutely fine, because he's just learning. Oh, but my sister advised me when I raised it a second time to first ask why they were concerned, in case there was something I had missed in the story

wibblyjelly Thu 06-Mar-14 14:22:57

The lady who wrote the note had left for the day. We did mention it to another lady there, and they said we weren't concerned. When we explained we think he just likes it, they agreed, so a bit of difference in opinion between the staff. I'll mention it again today if I see the lady who wrote it in the first placesmile

monkeymadness1 Thu 06-Mar-14 14:38:33

Unless nursery think he may be touching it because it is sore and it could be a medical issue?

monkeymadness1 Thu 06-Mar-14 14:39:48

Oops should have read other responses first.

Speak to them OP and ask why they think he needs to see a GP!

Guardianto2 Thu 06-Mar-14 17:42:51

All boys do this, Is he making it sore or anything that needs to be seen?

wibblyjelly Thu 06-Mar-14 18:12:32

I spoke to the worker today. She first of all apologised (before I said anything) about how it had come across. She had just wanted to let us know the Dr should see him if we were concerned that it was itchy for him.

matana Thu 06-Mar-14 19:49:26

Ahhh, man's obsession with his willy. Begins in toddlerhood.... and never ends. No, you do not need to take him to the doctor. What a weird comment for them to make.

matana Thu 06-Mar-14 19:50:23

Sorry just read their explanation. That's ok then. Perfectly normal. [Smile]

BikeRunSki Thu 06-Mar-14 19:52:53

Erm..... Don't adult men do this too?

mummyxtwo Thu 06-Mar-14 20:04:05

I'm a GP. Boys play with their willies. Sometimes they tug at them and see how far they'll stretch - if they do that a lot it might get sore! As they get older you can explain it is more polite not to fiddle away down there in public. Guaranteed they will still fiddle in private. When does it stop? Um. It doesn't. Bizarre that your nursery thought there was something odd about this! I am pretty sure you can't live in an isolated pocket of the world where other boys inexplicably don't fiddle with their willies.

wibblyjelly Thu 06-Mar-14 20:32:55

Thanks mummy, I figured that would be a gps reaction if I went to see them, especially as I don't think its spread or anything. The nursery worker did say to me today though that she's never seen a little boy as obsessed with it as my ds.

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