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DD appears to be only child not invited to party

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3gorgeousgirlies Fri 28-Feb-14 12:52:01

I overheard party girl's mum saying to new boy's mum "everyone is coming to the party". Feeling very hurt on dds behalf. Wwyd ? Would you speak to the mum?

gamerchick Fri 28-Feb-14 12:53:06

Sucks I know. I wouldn't say anything but I would be checking book bag just in case.

VerucaInTheNutRoom Fri 28-Feb-14 12:53:10

How old is your DD? Have you checked with her teacher and in her school bag for any stray invitations?

HumphreyCobbler Fri 28-Feb-14 12:53:28

that could easily mean that everyone who was invited is coming, not everyone in the class. Would it feel better if it was just 10 of them?

I know it can feel v painful but you have to learn to let stuff like this go.

NickNacks Fri 28-Feb-14 12:54:33

Speak to the mum and say what???

Northumberlandlass Fri 28-Feb-14 12:57:05

"Everyone is coming to the party" = everyone we've invited is coming to the party

"Everyone is coming to the party" = everyone in child's whole class has been invited and they are all coming

Honestly - I think it's probably the first one.
I know it's awful for your DD but it's not the last time it'll happen

Groovee Fri 28-Feb-14 12:58:37

Does she have a tray? My son brought home a whole load of party invites 6 months late!!!

WallyBantersJunkBox Fri 28-Feb-14 13:00:12

I would agree - she probably means everyone she invite.

Is your DD a particular friend of this boy?

3gorgeousgirlies Fri 28-Feb-14 13:53:53

My dd is 4 and the sweetest girl. Don't know what I would say to the mum to be honest. Nothing probably.

It's a girls party and even the new boy who started Monday has been invited!

Just wish I could say to the mum " everyone else had been invited it seems, why not my daughter !"

I know, I just need to get over it.

Sparklysilversequins Fri 28-Feb-14 13:57:09

I would say it, rightly or wrongly I would ask why my child was the ONLY one left out.

Kezzybear Fri 28-Feb-14 14:07:23

Are u sure everyone else in the class is invited? It could be because the boy us new he has been invited for the parents to meet other parents.

3gorgeousgirlies Fri 28-Feb-14 14:12:46

Not totally sure if whole class invited just going on what I heard. I know "everyone is coming" can mean a few things.

Invitations are given out in book bags.

Will I look desperate saying something?

QTPie Fri 28-Feb-14 14:48:15

If you don't know the mum very well and your daughter is not "best friends" with the party girl, then it will look odd...

Are you friendly with another Mum whose child is going. Maybe explain it to them and ask if they would mind subtly dropping it in conversation (when you aren't around): "oh, is so and so coming?". It may be an oversight, although be prepared for a knock back too.

Try not to worry too much: children are fickle creatures...

3gorgeousgirlies Fri 28-Feb-14 15:24:36

Thank you everyone

VerucaInTheNutRoom Fri 28-Feb-14 16:30:05

You have my sympathies, it's hard when kids are left out. Last year DS was hardly invited to any parties but this year we seem to have one every weekend!

BellaVita Fri 28-Feb-14 16:36:56

Maybe she means everyone is coming who she has invited rather than as in all the class apart from your dd?

MumbleJumbles Fri 28-Feb-14 21:27:10

Gosh I really do know where you're coming from with this - I had massive upsets when my DS started school 2yrs ago and seemed to not get party invites from all the little people he said he played with on a daily basis. I was gutted for him (even though he didnt seem to mind that much!). I've been the same since DD started school last sept, and i've got a third to go through it all with too! I find it really upsetting, ridiculous as it sounds!

But rest assured it IS because children are so changeable - one day they're best friends with someone, but the next (i.e. the day they chose who to invite to their party), they're no longer best friends. It used to really upset me on my childrens behalf. I sit down with my kids and make a sensible list of who they will invite to their party, and if they miss someone off who I think they should invite, then I say "we can't leave so-and-so out". Some parents won't do this - they literally just go with a list of whoever their child says. Different parents do it in different ways.

Try not to worry about it, I wouldnt suggest saying anything to the mum - treat your child to a nice afternoon out on day of party if they're feeling left out.

PublicEnemyNumeroUno Fri 28-Feb-14 21:29:54

Are you sure the party is for the kid? Maybe the mum is having a party and everyone is going?

aimees75 Fri 28-Feb-14 21:41:14

I think you would have to be incredibly insensitive to invite everyone but one child. It may be more likely that these two women know each other or have a connection somehow, and so the boy was invited. And perhaps as others say, she meant all who had been invited. However, I know I wouldn't be inviting the children of that mother to my child's party! Childish perhaps...

Picturesinthefirelight Fri 28-Feb-14 21:46:12

Unfortunately for my ds all the boys except two are regularly invited to parties. He hasn't been invited to a party for two years. I'd assumed it was because things were scaled down as they got older but apparently not. There have been several class parties

They all enjoyed coming to his party though.

TheGreatHunt Fri 28-Feb-14 21:47:52

Have you checkproperlyook bag properly?

TheGreatHunt Fri 28-Feb-14 21:48:18

*what a typo, sorry!!

kilmuir Fri 28-Feb-14 21:49:43

Thats awful. I would never leave 2 out. What are the mothers thinking?

grabaspoon Fri 28-Feb-14 21:51:30

Agree MumbleJumsbles. I heard every day about DC playing with this girl all day at school however months later when I invited her over to play, Mum had to say she'd never heard her child even mention DC's name.

DomesticDisgrace Fri 28-Feb-14 22:19:31

Oh some of these stories make me so sad. My DD is only 2.8yrs and so friendly and kind, in the playground there are a group of girls of a different nationality that run away from her and shout at her to go away. I nearly cried on the way home, then she tells me she had a great day with all her friends at the playground sad
I absolutely dread what's to come!

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