Other people posting photos of my DC on Facebook

[purpleaura]

Hi all,

DC is 5mo and I am keen for him not to have an online presence, especially photos. I feel that it's his choice to make when he's old enough, plus it makes me uncomfortable that so many people that I don't know have access to images of him. A friend recently posted loads of photos of DC on fb and I can see that this situation will repeat itself with other friends in the future. This must me a common situation.

Please tell me how you feel about your DCs and how you manage things. Am I being OTT and PFB about it?

Thanks x

[Zatch]

I specifically made the request when pregnant that no images were to be made public of ds. Made a point of repeating it after he was born and so far everyone has happily respected it. I didn't share any details other than I was graced with a beautiful baby boy online.

He's now 13months. I think it's a completely reasonable request and would be asking said friend to politely remove them from public access.

[Morgause]

I would say it depends on the circumstances. If it was a birthday party it seems unfair to expect people not to post group photos that your DS happens to be on, especially if he is not named.

The more he goes out in public the more likely he's going to turn up in photos on Facebook. It wouldn't bother me unless his name was given.

[fairplay]

I don't tend to worry bit maybe I am being too relaxed. it doesn't make me feel uncomfortable. I agree with a previous poster who said group party photos will be awkward.

for me though I live a long way from some family and so facebook is a way of sharing updates.

[Eletheomel]

It pisses me off too, but I'm not sure there is anyway round it (i don't actually have a facebook presence as I'm against all this liberal sharing of personal data - I'm a bit weird like that :-)

My family are the worst offenders and they have no clue how to set up their privacy settings.

I deliberately didn't attach a photo of DS to the email announcing his birth, then a few weeks later noticed that the pics taken by my sister had been published on her FB - so went' digging and found old photos of DS1 as a baby on my uncles FB page (my entire family (bar me) is on facebook).

Ultimately, I think as the photographer they have the right to post any photos they take, there's not much you can do, other than ask tehm not to, but some people live their life through facebook, so that might be a bit unreasonable...

[purpleaura]

Thanks for all your opinions. Glad I'm not alone in feeling this way. I think I'd feel better if I knew that the poster and those tagged in the pics had tight privacy settings. It's a weird feeling for me. I think I'll just need to get used to it to a certain extent. And maybe ask people not to post certain photos. I think it might he time gor a fb friend cull as well. x

[shebird]

I think your family are very insensitive to your feelings on this. There are other ways of sharing photos in a more private way without posting them on a FB wall. Even sending them as a private message or email to other family members would be better as they are then not public. If a parent wants to put pictures of their DC on FB that is their choice but like you I would object to others doing so without having the courtesy to check with me first. I mean would it be ok to make posters and flyers with pictures of your child and put them up all over town - no it would not. FB is no different. Nothing is sacred anymore.