HI. My five year old son has two days a week at kindy and two days at a childcarer's. I am in Australia, and the childcare is a "family" daycare, which means my carer cares for a small group in her home.
She is wonderful, and I like her very much, however my DS is having trouble with another child she cares for. It is only on Fridays that the other boy is there and DS is getting very upset about going on Fridays, cries whenever we talk about it, starts to have "phantom" illnesses so he can stay home, and when I drop him off he is very clingy and upset.
My carer has sent me an email today telling me that the boy he has a problem with is lovely and isn't doing anything to my DS. And that when she tries to discuss it with DS he feigns illness and cries! DS can't really explain why he dislikes the other boy, but instead starts crying. I think it is because they are very different (my DS is not a "boyish" boy, instead a bit of a "nerd". Mad about all things Dr Who, drawing, reading, not into rough and tumble and cars etc).
I don't know what to do. I am not going to change carers as she is very good, and we've only a few more weeks of care, then it's summer break and he'll be off to school full-time.
I want to be able to teach him that he won't always like who he is with at school, work etc, but he's only just 5 and doesn't seem to comprehend this.
If anyone has been through a similar situation and has any suggestions, I'd really appreciate it.
I am actually a mum of five, but not really encountered this problem before. I don't think it helps that DS is the youngest of the five, with his nearest sibling being 8 years older than him, so we probably give in to him too easily, IYKWIM.
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Five year old upset about another child at childcare, what to do?
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hopefulgum · 08/11/2013 10:11
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