So I haven't posted in here before (usually post in the pregnancy threads) but I figured this would be the correct place.
My dh is pretty liberal and born of hippy parents. I am too. We live in the States but I'm British. Just some background info to help you along.
The other day I was getting out of the bath, and dh was helping (39 weeks, things are getting pretty difficult). He held up my towel for me and put it round me and I said "aw, just like my Dad used to do it." He was horrified. He said he thought it was really weird that my Dad helped me bathe and saw me naked.
Now my Dad actually brought us up so there wasn't really any other option other than letting a 5 year old get out of the bath herself but even so, I don't think this is 'weird' is it?! I can't remember when I stopped being naked in front of my Dad, probably around 8 or 9 or so and I certainly remember telling him in no uncertain terms that he was no longer allowed to walk to the bathroom at night undressed at about 9 or 10 lol.
So we carry on talking about this and it turns out dh can never remember seeing his parents naked. If they would go camping they'd get undressed in their sleeping bags and swimming would use private stalls.
He was also horrified at the fact that I'll go in with my Mum in the bathroom and pee while she's showering (it drives her nuts too but only because I'm ruining her zen) or sit on the loo and chat to her.
He says him and his sister were told to cover up from as far back as he can remember and once when he was a tiny lad (probably about 3) he got torn apart for peeing in the bushes whilst his Grandma was around.
Now I've been a maternity nurse/nanny for over 18 years and whilst things have obviously changed over the years, for good reason I guess considering the amount of weirdos out there, but I never used to think twice about showering with little girls and boys I worked with let alone my own children I'm about to have. I've spoken recently to old bosses about it it and they've said things like "well obviously we trusted you not to do anything to harm our children/babies or you wouldn't be employed, we'd rather they saw you in a swimming pool shower than not shower them or let them shower on their own!".
So what's everyone else's opinions on nakedness and children? Am I just naively WAY too liberal? Maybe it's an American thing? I've told dh if I hear anyone telling my son to 'cover up' or that it's wrong to be naked at an early age I will flip the fuck out. I think it can cause body issues and a shyness that will come all to quickly anyway.
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BummyMummy77 · 30/10/2013 13:23
It sounds like you and your husband grew up in families at opposite ends of the scale on this subject.
I remember being shouted out of the bathroom by my mum at the age of six because she was in the bath.
And I don't think I've ever seen my Dad without his vest on, EVER. 
On the other hand my Gran (mum's mum) would laugh at us as children if we tried to get undressed under a towel 'what do you think you've got that no-one else has, eh?'
DS is 10 and is still happy to be naked around us. There is no lock on our bathroom door, so when we shower we can still use toilet. DS has no issue seeing me or DH naked - I have never made a big deal out of it.
DH does have a habit of taking his work clothes off (really dirty) in kitchen & then scooting upstairs for a shower, I rarely walk around the house naked but that is mostly due to the unflattering angles I can see in mirrors 
Bunny sorry just laughing at your last comment!
DD1 is going to be 9 soon and is just starting to kick her dad out of the shower room and go hide to change. DH did bath time quite often for both DDs until now. Little one (3.5) still fine running naked everywhere.
Both see me and DH naked too when they storm in the shower with something so important it can't wait 
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I think you probably should talk to your DH about this. It's very, very normal for children and parents to be naked around each other up until the children grow old enough to have their own sense of privacy.
I know it is his perogative, but realistically there's going to be a lot of nakedness for him to deal with over the next few years! Children will need a parent around while they are bathing for years. It is almost impossible to get into a shower with a toddler around without them getting in too. Ditto baths (and bathing with a little one is so much fun anyway) Little children do like to have a good rummage or fiddle with their private parts too. And sometimes with yours
That's why I'd have a nice, friendly chat about it, nothing accusatory, just wonderingly ask him if he's thought about how he'll try not be naked at all around his DC. There's a reason why everyone complains about not being able to pee in peace! And toddlers are naturally inquisitive, they will want to investigate your body.
Currently, our toddler sometimes showers with DP and the other day discovered that she is the correct height to stand between his legs and get this funny 'hat' that rests on her head. DP was admittedly a bit a funny about this, but he didn't make a fuss. We're just going to gently start saying that you shouldn't prod and poke and pull body parts (kind of in the same way you'd say no, don't poke me in the eye) but not in any way that would make it a bad thing.
I still talk to my mum while she is peeing or getting dressed. Less so my dad, but there's no embarrassment if I accidentally walk in on him.
Okten, that reminds me of a friend who ended up sharing a loo with her DH's niece while on a day trip and then remembered she was on her period, but had no idea whether the niece knew about periods, and it was far too busy a place to open the cubicle and ask the niece to leave (and anyway that would have been weird) so ended up trying to pee while pretending to do up her shoelaces at the same time to try and hide it... That would have been a corking SIL thread had friend accidentally ended up explaining periods to her niece if the mum hadn't yet!
My mum told me once you had baby you bleed every month( to explain why she wouldn't go swimming with me) i was about 6 and horrified
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When my DD asked about tampons at the age of about 3, i just told her a version of the truth, in that if a mum didn't want baby she had to use the tampax for a few days every month. By the time both my kids were about 8/9 they knew the true biological fact, no big drama.
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I remember my mum walking round the house naked until my siblings and I were about 10 or 12, it was no big deal. She used to leave the door open if she was in the bath and we'd walk in and out chatting to her. However like yours OP, my DH is the complete opposite. In his family, it is/was considered somehow wrong to be naked at all and DH has real issues with nakedness, to the extent of telling our 6 year old DD that she was not to walk round the house in just her knickers as it is "disgusting" 
I'll definitely be showing him this thread later!
Is your DH planning in bathing you baby when it arrives? Does he realise they need help for many years. Also how much fun it is bathing with them when they are little.
Another house here where nudity is fairly relaxed. Driven by the DC's who are 15 and 13. Generally they now cover up between bathroom and bedrooms but they more than happy to wander into our bathroom and have a chat whilst we are naked though lately DD15 has started telling DH 'put your pants on Dad!' This makes him go 
as she's come into our bathroom!
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