Anyone swithering over having a third baby? Here is my day so far.(49 Posts)
Midnight BST: Feed DS2 (3 months) who went to bed at 7.30 and was fed at 9.30.
2am: Replug DS2 with dummy.
3am: Feed DS2 and put back to bed.
2.30am GMT: Feed DS2 and put back to bed.
3am: bring DS2 into bed.
3-7: I have no recollection of events but when I wake up baby has a new nappy and is on the other side of me than when I was asleep.
7am: Awoken by sounds of DS1 (4.7) being sent to his room for giving DH cheek yet again. Feed DS2.
8.30am: Put DS2 to bed. Screams. DH takes DS1 out to buy pumpkins. DD (2.3) screams.
8.40am: DH returns with DS1 who has fallen off his bike and is screaming.
Put DS1 and DD in front of milkshake so I can shower.
8.50am: bring DD into bathroom to stop fighting. DD screams. Baby asleep.
9am: Shower finished. DD has started playing with gruffalo book.
9.02am: Hear baby screaming
I have 2, ds1 4.10yo and dd2 12mo, and we have just agreed to start TTC for baby number 3. I have to do all the nights as dh is a surgeon and can't exactly operate in a fog of sleep deprivation
"It was the other leg, you say? Ahhh... Oops." And we have 6 months in Sydney from Jan 2015 for his work, and the idea of a baby plus 2 other dc's on a flight to the other side of the world is beyond the scope of my most imaginative nightmares. But... I really want 3! Clearly broodiness can override sane logical thinking.
And here is my day so far ....
Midnight - feed dd
1am - back to sleep
4am - Feed dd who then won't go back to sleep
5am - give up and come downstairs
6 am - dd asleep I curl up on sofa
6.30 - ds2 up wants food
6.45 - dd more milk and porridge
7.00 - ds 1 up wants food
Dd currently wingeing on her play mat, ds 2 half dressed refusing to get any more dressed ds 1 moaning at teeth brushing
Luckily this is not a work day
I have three. Hang in there. Mine are 8, 6 and 4 and are currently playing Playmobil (between bouts of fighting)
And when they're older, they do lots for 'the baby' (who's now 8 but DH won't have any more!) So it gets much easier. Mine are now 14, 12 and 8 and Ds 2 who is number 3 is a sweet heart.
What did it ever do to you to elicit such a harsh reaction?
I bought a zoo
I spent hours building it
They pulled it apart
Maybe it's the dc though not play mobile lol
Mummyxtwo good luck! I work with lots of surgeons and I feel for their partners. The long hours! The unpredictabilty!
Mumofthree I think we are in a very similar boat. It's like crying relays, isn't it? And.... pass the baton on!
Another, thank you. I am looking foward.
3monkeys thanks too!
Mumof3xx I bought the zoo too. Same thing. Gave it Grandparents who police playmobil brilliantly, and now not my problem.
I became single when pg with DD3, so had the similar never ending cycle of fighting/feeding baby/screaming (from us all)/no sleep, as they were 6-2-nb at the time.
Scroll forwards five years and I now have a toddler DS, and life is noisy, but brilliant, my girls are all 'big' (in school full time), and my little boy benefits from much attention and play (still won't sleep through the night).
I wouldn't change a thing, and as they get older, I find I forget how brain-achingly hard it all was!
It gets so much better! (but they still fight like cats).
I have a hormonal stroppy 13yo, a 9 yo who has issues with many things, food, crowds, change to name but a few, a 'spirited' 2.10 yo and an 18 month old. It is day 2 of half term and I am ready to cry!
Zulu and bigfingers, totally know what you're feeling. I thought this period of maternity leave would be lovely, I know what I'm doing with babies, this one'll just fit in.
Nope. He's completely broken us. Dd1 and 2 weren't great sleepers but he takes the cake. Also has eczema and all manner of allergies, had an emergency operation, nightmare when teething. He's 7 months! I feel like I've aged 10 years. I am not broody any more!
Having said that, he's just lovely
Zulu for some reason that really made me laugh that you called me Biginfingers.
mostly because I am verging on hysteria all the time
I TOTALLY thought number three would just fit in. Everyone I consulted about the wisdom of three told me that he would. THEY WERE LIARS
Tbf, I know some people whose third does seem to do that
and I hate them and obviously has slept through from 6 weeks. >>forced smiles all round!!!<<
I have since noticed that most people who don't seem to struggle with three have a bigger gap between DC2 and DC3. My gap is 21 months, the reasoning being that I would be getting this stage over with more quickly and get back to FT work sooner, and that they may be closer as a result of being nearer in age. Hoping that both reasons will still work out but I think the small age gap has been the main problem, so mummyxtwo if you are in a position to wait, I would heartily recommend a three year age gap - that's the gap I have between DD and DS1 and it was an absolute breeze. DD was old enough to help
get me snacks out of fridge when I was breastfeeding, understood to be a bit quiet when I went upstairs to put DS1 down for a nap, etc etc. Also out at playgroup quite a bit so I got some kip when DS1 was sleeping and she was out.
kwt I remember joking to DH that there was NO WAY DC3 would be harder than DD, who was a godawful sleeper til she was about 21m, then she gradually started to get better, then at about 4 she started having night terrors every night til she was over 5. Finally she is sorted. He is at least twice as bad. So that's the next 3 years to look forward to then!!!! >>silently weeps<<
I have 3 - stroppy 7 year old ds1 (who appears to be hitting the teenage sulks early, lucky me), demanding 4 year old ( who has started having nightmares since starting school - and doing nocturnal poos oh joy) and 16 week ds3 who is lovely and cuddly but does not sleep, has reflux (and is the cause of 5 loads of washing today) and wants to be held all the time. I love my boys but just sometimes I'd like to press pause and relish some peace and quiet (and sleep!) For a bit!
You're all making me feel much better. Thank you! (although shouldn't have watched that David Tennant thing before going to bed. I made sure all the doors were locked twice).
The baby has pinged his dummy somewhere and I can't find it. I've just spent 5 minutes searching with the light of my phone round his cot before giving up.
Dinky I have a stroppy first son too. This week he's been shouting " but you just don't CARE" before stropping off to his room. He's only 4.7!!
Kwt I'm not broody any more either. I know absolutely that I don't want any more. The maty clothes are long gone and I've just given away all the 0-3 month stuff too!
I have many stroppy people in the house.
the answer to the problem is ice cream!
Zulu I sold all my mat gear and most of other 0-3 clothes when ds3 was 2 months old!
Zing - am sadly having to be dairy free for the reflux monster. Not that it seems to be helping much.
I don't know how I feel now I found this thread. I have bad morning sickness and am 11wks only with dc3. I desperately wanted a third and I started a thread asking what it was like to have three but didn't get much response. Well now I know! I have quite a few friends with three but when we get together, five kids makes so much noise it's hard to talk! There will be 22 months between dd2 and dc3 and dd1 will be 3.11 so they will all be quite close. I'm dreading dd2 not being out of nappies when dc3 arrives.
You know what, no matter how much I complain/down gin, I do love having my 3 boys Thestylethatdecadesforgot - when I had one I had hard days, when I had 2 I had hard days and now I have 3 I have hard days - but the good times definitely outshine the bad ones with 3. Dont let it worry you too much - and if you do have hard days, remember there are plenty of us out there having the same!
I have 3, wouldn't change that. What annoys me most is holidays, very few hotels, package holidays or B&Bs cater for a family of 5. I'd just love to book a hotel break for us all at a reasonable price.
Moves away dreaming of a family break in a nice hotel....
Thestyle I'm with dinky. Even though I have cried more in the last few weeks than ever before and most bedtimes make me want to run away screaming, I don't regret my third. And I keep telling myself I'm playing the long game and that before I know it they'll be playing nicely together and making me cups of tea in bed.
But the first few months: aaaaaaaarrgghh!!!
Soundstrue I really want a caravan again, but DH is having none of it. The fecker.
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