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Anyone swithering over having a third baby? Here is my day so far.

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ZuluWarrior Sun 27-Oct-13 09:38:05

Midnight BST: Feed DS2 (3 months) who went to bed at 7.30 and was fed at 9.30.
2am: Replug DS2 with dummy.
3am: Feed DS2 and put back to bed.
2.30am GMT: Feed DS2 and put back to bed.
3am: bring DS2 into bed.
3-7: I have no recollection of events but when I wake up baby has a new nappy and is on the other side of me than when I was asleep.
7am: Awoken by sounds of DS1 (4.7) being sent to his room for giving DH cheek yet again. Feed DS2.
8.30am: Put DS2 to bed. Screams. DH takes DS1 out to buy pumpkins. DD (2.3) screams.
8.40am: DH returns with DS1 who has fallen off his bike and is screaming.
Put DS1 and DD in front of milkshake so I can shower.
8.50am: bring DD into bathroom to stop fighting. DD screams. Baby asleep.
9am: Shower finished. DD has started playing with gruffalo book.
9.02am: Hear baby screaming

3littlewomen Sun 27-Oct-13 09:45:13

It gets better - I promise! DD1 just brought us tea in bed, DD2 & 3 downstairs playing, DS1 sleeping in his pit and DS2 asleep beside us... That's 5!

The first years are hard, but I love it now the older ones are semi-sane!

FruitSaladIsNotPudding Sun 27-Oct-13 09:50:37

See, that's exactly what I am afraid of. Dh and I both really want a third child. We just can't bear the thought of having a third baby!!

ZuluWarrior Sun 27-Oct-13 18:34:14

I do apologise - I started this thread on my phone and thought I'd lost it. Didn't realise it'd been posted!

I didn't finish it. It should have ended:

9.15am - write this message while feeding baby. DS1 and DD scream and bicker while climbing on me.


ZuluWarrior Sun 27-Oct-13 18:36:34

3littlewomen that sounds amazing!

Fruitsalad go for it. The good outweighs the bad - just. Hate the night times though. I go a bit mad I think. During the day I'm pretty good at putting my game face on.

Idislikemymil Sun 27-Oct-13 18:41:18

Having 3 is lovely. Most of the time.

There are days when I want to run away and never come back - but not very often!

ZuluWarrior Sun 27-Oct-13 18:43:15

Idislike I find myself actively squirrelling away the good bits to access later when it's all gone tits up!

eggybrokenoff Sun 27-Oct-13 18:53:24

i am 10 weeks pg with no 3. i have severe hyperemesis. both dcs have gastroenteritis at the moment as does dh. last few days have been horrific.

please please tell me something lovely about having 3 before i bury my head in a full sick bowl and never come up?!

BoyGirlBoy3 Sun 27-Oct-13 19:01:54

You get to extend it all a bit, when your dc2 is finishing lower school, you have something to soften the blow, dc3. smile applies to so many things. They look so cute together at times, and make so many lovely games and pictures, that you treasure the memories forever.x

ZuluWarrior Mon 28-Oct-13 01:11:49

Eggy, watching DS2's adoring big brother and sister with him is lovely. And he saves his biggest smiles for them, not his poor old Mum who fed him all night!

StupidFlanders Mon 28-Oct-13 01:26:29

Ah well I can offer some hope. When I had 3 dcs I was probably woken during the night 5 times in the first year (from when dc3 was 6 weeks).
I was just thinking last night that I don't think any dc has ever come to my room to wake me up and to be honest I don't find 3 dcs difficult.
4 though....

ZingWantsCake Mon 28-Oct-13 04:45:09

we have 6.

Claryrocks Mon 28-Oct-13 14:24:19

I have one DD aged 5 and a DS coming up for 3 and am sooooo broody. I just need to convince my husband. I do see the logic at stopping - another means less time to spend with my two, less money to spend on them - more mess and noise. But it just feels like there is a third one out there for me and I need to gather him/her in. sounds freaky I know.

ZuluWarrior Mon 28-Oct-13 19:21:38

Thanks StupidFlanders. That is hope indeed! Also, I'll be going to work in Feb so my life will be much easier then grin.

Zing I am in awe, as always.

Clary, I know what you mean. There's something just right about having 3 and for some reason it makes me feel like a proper grown up (because having 2 children at 32 didn't!).

There, you've all made me feel better. And today we all lay on the floor and did duplo and for about 5 minutes it was beautiful. Before the screaming restarted grin

ZingWantsCake Mon 28-Oct-13 19:22:08

thanks Zulusmile

TheWomanTheyCallJayne Mon 28-Oct-13 19:25:36

There's a way of making three seem easy
Have four wink

(From the only other warrior with 4 who isn't boff)

ZuluWarrior Mon 28-Oct-13 19:27:25

Hahahahaha. From Norfolk by any chance? grin. Have 4 - a bit like squash and a sqeeze?

TheWomanTheyCallJayne Mon 28-Oct-13 19:58:59

That'll be me smile

Does duplo always make you scream? grin

ZingWantsCake Mon 28-Oct-13 20:08:14


what are the chances of those four children being:





ZuluWarrior Mon 28-Oct-13 20:16:48

Lots of things make me scream. Duplo is only one of them thlsmile.

Bigfingers Mon 28-Oct-13 20:17:19

From the OP : 3-7: I have no recollection of events but when I wake up baby has a new nappy and is on the other side of me than when I was asleep. this tickled me.

We are 19m in to having three (DD1 is 6.4, DS1 3.4, DS2 19m) and I can honestly say the first year of having three was HELL ON EARTH. Having two was such a breeze, DS1 was such a calm baby, slept well, so even though DD1 was a handful and her sleeping has only really settled down since she was 5, we thought we'd worked it out and no.3 would be fine. I'm going to say this really quietly in case he hears, but DS2 is a demon child nightmare. He bites DS1, won't sleep, started biting my boobs when I was BF-ing from 7m to the point where he got blood (fasted wean in history ensued), screams ALL the time (still), bites my shoulder when I'm carrying him, has slept through maybe TWICE since birth. Every 6 months we keep saying, ahhh, it'll all be better in 6m time. Please god let it be better by next summer.

I feel your pain OP. big time. hang in there
cake cake cake cake cake

Bigfingers Mon 28-Oct-13 20:18:07


Bigfingers Mon 28-Oct-13 20:22:40

Clary that's how I felt. And once you feel it, you can't unfeel it... my three are all gorgeous and I don't regret it, but I really am looking forward to the screaming-baby stage being over. grin

TheWomanTheyCallJayne Mon 28-Oct-13 20:24:03

Go choose the wrong hat grin

ZuluWarrior Mon 28-Oct-13 20:33:04

Oh Biginfingers. That sounds like hell. I bet you secretly thought (like I did) that the third child would just fit in and kind of sit in the corner smiling. Oh, how I'm laughing now!

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