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Do you love your husband more or kids more

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mommytobe234 · 04/08/2013 23:21

Just curious to know , plus i am bored. Thanks

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cantpooinpeace · 04/08/2013 23:25

Kids, they're a part of me. I love my DH but love the kids on a whole different levelSmile

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XBenedict · 04/08/2013 23:26

Yep, my children. I love DH dearly but like the previous poster says my children are a part of me in a way DH isn't.

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AlteredState · 04/08/2013 23:45

Definitely kids. As an aside, I once asked my mum as a teenager if she had to choose between her children or her husband who would she choose. She said she couldn't choose and I was stunned then tried to debate with her about the "part of me" aspect mentioned by previous posters. She still couldn't choose. Now having become a parent myself I would would always choose dd.

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Hashtagwhatever · 04/08/2013 23:50

My children. There is nothing that could make me not love them unconditional love is very true

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mommytobe234 · 04/08/2013 23:52

Am i the only one who love her husband more ?
God. Now i am really feeling guilty.

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BitBewildered · 04/08/2013 23:53

Kids. There is no contest.

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mummysbigsmiles · 04/08/2013 23:54

Most certainly my child!!

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morethanpotatoprints · 04/08/2013 23:55

mummytobe

I love my dh as much as kids. I don't love any of them more than the other.

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BillyGoatintheBuff · 04/08/2013 23:55

momytobe234 have you got kids ore are you pregnant?

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Nagoo · 04/08/2013 23:55

I think that ideally you'd love the DH more, because he'll still be there when your DC are grown ups. If he is a good man and you are a parenting team then you have the holy grail, as you would both do whatever you could for the good of the DC.

I love my DC more.

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BadRoly · 04/08/2013 23:55

When the dc were younger, I would have said them but now I'm not so sure tbh. It's a very different 'love' I think.

I wonder if it was to do with protecting my babies when they were smaller whereas now I'm going into getting them more independent mode Grin (with varying success)

Or perhaps I can see them leaving me/us and selfishly I'm looking after my own interests with dh so putting us/him as a higher priority?

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dontlaugh · 04/08/2013 23:56

Love both very much, but I'd give up my life for my children. And would kill anyone who hurt them, in a way I don't think I would for DH.

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BillyGoatintheBuff · 04/08/2013 23:57

Badroly makes a good point!

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Yawner247 · 04/08/2013 23:58

Definitely DCs Smilefollowed closely by dog I mean DH!!

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KnittedWaffle · 04/08/2013 23:59

If I had a H it would still definitely be my DC!

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Yawner247 · 04/08/2013 23:59

Posted too soon....do you have a greater love for any of your DCs?! My DM always said her first born is a different kind of love to me or my youngest sis!!!!Shock

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cantpooinpeace · 05/08/2013 00:03

No!
Love them equally but for very different reasons Grin

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thornrose · 05/08/2013 00:04

I can't imagine loving anyone in the same way I love my child. It's more of an unconditional love I feel.

I can think of scenarios that would make me fall out of love with a partner. I can't think of many scenarios that would make me fall out of love/walk away from my child.

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mommytobe234 · 05/08/2013 00:04

BillyGoatintheBuff
One is a teen and other is 8 years old.

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K8Middleton · 05/08/2013 00:07

Dc - love is unconditional
Dh - love is conditional

Other than that it's so different that comparisons are fairly pointless. The ancient Greeks had it right with all their different types of love.

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BillyGoatintheBuff · 05/08/2013 00:08

I think my love for them varies over different days Confused

But generally speaking my love for them both is equal.

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Floralnomad · 05/08/2013 00:10

I agree with thornrose , there are definitely scenarios where I would leave my husband but I can't ever imagine walking away from my children .

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PerchedOnMyPeddleStool · 05/08/2013 00:11

My children.
No contest.

I have a respect for my husband, I love him, need him to be my equal, my friend, I desire him. It's a selfishness.

I don't need anything from my children. I have no expectations of them. It's a pure love.

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chattychattyboomba · 05/08/2013 00:14

My daughter of course! This has been done a few times but I just don't see how it's humanly possible to love anything or anyone more than your own child.
I would die for her....
The day she was born I looked at DH and said 'I love her more than you! Is that horrible?'
He said 'of course not! I should hope you do!'
And that settled that.

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kiwik · 05/08/2013 00:17

My DH. We have to love one another long after the children will have grown up and moved out.
I adore my children, but love my DH.

Although if I really had to choose it would be the cat...

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