My brother has a wife and two DCs whom he lives with. He also has another DD who he had in-between the two DDs he has with his wife (during a separation from his wife and a brief relationship with a new lady, contraception failure - I'll call her 'K').
Things are incredibly sour between my DB and K, to the point that he has no contact with their DD whatsoever and has not seen her for a year now. DD is 21 months old. He did not really have a chance to form a relationship or bond with their DD previous to this. He is not entitled to legal aid and cannot afford solicitor fees. It is not possible for him to have contact with K so cannot see their DD.
He has asked me for advice on wether to send their DD presents/cards or wether this would be a negative intrusion. K has a new partner who apparently is a father figure to DD. My DB does not see himself having access to his DD until she is old enough to be independent from K. Will DD be angry with him for sending cards etc throughout her childhood, reminding her of his absence, or will she appreciate that he thought of her even though he did not see her. Is she better off without any reminders and to see K's new partner as her dad. It's safe to say K will definitely be telling DD what an awful man her biological father is and how he rejected her consistently while raising her with or without cards/gifts.
I am asking you for advice because I have no experience of this and haven't a clue.
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ohcrappola · 10/07/2013 09:27
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