Hi ladies
Am still fairly new to MN, but am picking up from various threads that you all share similar parenting styles - empathic, gentle, negotiating, non-punitive, etc.
This is the kind of parenting I believe in (all of the time), aspire to (most of the time), and succeed at (some of the time) ...
But today was "one of those days", with dp away, ds (two next week) irritable with rotten cold, and me trying - and quickly failing - to be an eternally patient, understanding and playful mummy while simultaneously trying to get on top of the housework. Ended up sighing, taking deep breaths, snapping a bit, and drifting off in my own little world. Feel I abandoned my parenting values through weariness - and it probably happens quite a bit. Often before 9am!
So some questions ...
Do you find that the focus, energy and patience required to consistently empathise/understand/be creative/explain/negotiate/distract and divert - etc - dry up sometimes, even when they're still very much needed? For me, they're impossible to keep up all the time ... if it's the same for you, too, how do you handle your "lapses"?
More pontificating ...
My mum is gentle and patient - always has been - while my dad, who is now pretty laid back, was a bit of a formidable authoritarian when we grew up. I can see that I have both my parents' styles in me, and while Mum's is dominant, Dad's quick temper appears sometimes too - especially on days like today! Do you find this too - that you have a couple of different parents in you? How consistent do you think we need to be in our parenting style; how many off-days, relatively, can little ones weather?
And what's it like trying to be this attentive to more than one child?! Don't know if I could do it ...
Grateful for any reassurances that I'm not the only one falling considerably short of my parenting ideals.
Thanks
EBAB
PS Franny, the co-sleeping's going well. Thanks for your input on this last month.
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